Frequently Asked Questions


QUESTIONS ABOUT YOUR FIRST SESSION

Whether you’re seeking help for the first time or have previously worked with a sex therapist or marriage and family therapist, this comprehensive FAQ has all the answers you need. Lean in to learn what makes Closeness coaching unique and how we can help you build deeper intimacy, connection, and passion.

My goal is to help you or you and your partner experience genuine intimate, sexual or life breakthroughs. Through bespoke coaching sessions and optional hands-on tools, I show you how to build trust, physical closeness, emotional intimacy and electric sexual chemistry. But please remember—any suggestive demos or guided interactions are just that: tools to help you reconnect, understand, and feel what real intimacy looks like. Sometimes, seeing is believing—and that’s where we start.

What Do You Actually Do?

I guide, teach, counsel, educate, demonstrate, exhilarate and facilitate—helping you remove barriers to intimacy with your partner or even within yourself. Whether you need traditional coaching or hands-on tools to reconnect, I meet you where you are.

Options include:

Life coaching or tailored sex and intimacy guidance, mediation, and sometimes being a confidant.

• I make sexual conversations easy and navigate tough topics in a relaxed, safe space. Simple conversation is always an option.

•Safe, interactive exercises, demos, suggestive build ups, and couple’s games—when desired and with consent.

 

Great question. I am not a therapist, but I do get results 

 

This might be easiest to answer in the words of my clients: Often I am the person people call when traditional methods of personal therapy, marriage counseling and sex therapy have not worked. 

While you certainly can do session with me in a tradition setting and sense: You sit on the sofa and we work through things together… I am also able to get long lasting results by actually teaching, guiding and educating you and your partner about almost any sexual subject you can think of. 

Absolutely not. You will never be expected to do anything you’re uncomfortable with or that you don’t want to do—there is no pressure, no judgment, and no obligation. Full stop.

That said, as a sex and intimacy coach, my role is to help you achieve meaningful breakthroughs in your relationship or personal journey. And on some level for most people that is why they come to see me.

While traditional talk-only approaches can be effective, they can take much longer to deliver real results. That’s why I both created and teach optional, consensual interactions and guided suggestive demos—practical tools that help you experience and embody what we discuss in a safe and supportive environment.

Your comfort, personal boundaries, and preferences come first. Every session is tailored to you and your unique needs. While you’re not required to participate in any live demos, it’s important to show up with an open mind and a genuine intention to work on this together. Simply showing up because your spouse dragged you in generally isn’t enough; real progress requires positive intent and a willingness to play full out.

This is your journey, and we move at your pace—with care, sensitivity, and respect.

Absolutely not 

 

Some people take off their jacket or sweater if they get too warm, but it stops there. 

Now sometimes, for those who are looking to increase their sexual chemistry, or learn how to be more intimate, we can take off an article of clothing like a shirt, vest, jacket or extra top that you bring in. This is useful if and only if your particular relationship requires help in this area. Even then, all interactions are optional and intended to help you understand how to do it in a way that your partner finds attractive. 

 

Absolutely. Many women choose to come in for solo sessions, even if they’re married or in a relationship. Often, this is because they want to explore their thoughts, feelings, and desires independently before involving their partner. This is a deeply personal choice, and I provide a safe, supportive, and judgment-free space where you can do just that. Plus, your partner is welcome anytime. 

Women often seek my guidance to better understand their own bodies, explore sexual pleasure, or navigate topics like toys, masturbation, and intimacy. For some, the focus is on building confidence and learning to express their needs—whether that’s learning how to say no with clarity and authority or discovering how to ask for what truly excites and turns them on.

When desired, we can engage in safe, consensual, and optional exercises or interactions. Some are designed to help you practice using your voice, and ask for what you want. Others are in place to help you recognize the kind of body language and energy that turns you on. Whether it’s practicing boundaries or exploring what feels good, these sessions are tailored to your comfort level and unique needs.

But as always remember, this is your journey, and I’m here to guide you—sensitively, respectfully, and at your own pace—toward deeper self-awareness, confidence, and pleasure. Many women come in to just talk and I’m very good at that. 😉 

I know that most people don’t enjoy group texts—especially within the same household. That’s why I keep scheduling, follow-ups, and ongoing communication streamlined, and that typically means with one phone in the relationship. Often, the female partner reaches out first, taking the lead on communication and scheduling. However, group texts are always available upon request.

Communication shouldn’t stop when the session ends. Unlike traditional marriage therapists or psychotherapists, I use voice notes and text updates to stay connected in between sessions. I might even send appropriate video links, book recommendations, places etc. Feel free to reach out—whether it’s to share wins, ask questions, or simply update me on your journey toward deeper intimacy.

My goal will always be to facilitate Closeness, whether that is with yourself or with you and your partner. If you prefer minimal communication please just say so. 

For my safety and yours, I let you reach out and then I’ll follow your tone. 

What Will I Learn?

For men:

•How to make your female partner feel desired, wanted, and pursued.

•How to approach seduction confidently and naturally, without feeling like you’re acting, role playing or being someone you aren’t. How to get in touch with your masculine side so you can electrify her and bring out her femininity and sexuality. 

•How to create or restore hot chemistry—without jumping straight to sex.

•How to initiate intimacy in ways that women find thrilling and arousing. How to do things “properly.” Meaning, in a way that awakens her desire. 

For women:

•How to tap into your own pleasure, desires, and confidence. 

•How to communicate what you want—clearly and comfortably.  How to say no and how to say hell yes! 

•Getting to know your body and how it works. How to have different kinds of orgasms. Discover how you like to  be looked at, loved, touched, held. 

•Sex toy education. Self pleasuring eduction. 

For couples:

•How to build trust, clean up emotional wounds, and reconnect. Mediation through my guidance to clean up last resentments. 

•Techniques to explore what turns both of you on—and how to get there together. Understanding roles and who should do what. 

• Fun optional exercises whether we stay seated, stand up or just talk to one another. 

No other way to say it. Absolutely.  Trust comes first. In fact my top priority is that, ideally, you walk out of the office feeling better than when you walk in.

Now, some couples come to me in such disarray, ready to break up, or with such a broken relationship, that it might be impossible to get things to a positive place on the first or second session. Sometimes people come in and they don’t know why they are there… it’s important to have a positive intention and for you or both of you to be on board for a positive experience.

That said, I create a safe, judgment-free space to work through emotional sticking points, old resentments, or wounds. You’ll never be pushed or pressured into anything—you’ll only explore what feels right for you. I have learned that many people need or want to be asked more than once for encouragement. Please never take this as pressure, I am always wanting to cover my bases and add value.

So whether you’re looking for breakthrough conversations, renewed chemistry, or practical steps to improve your intimacy, it’s all tailored to you. Simple, effective, and transformative.

You would be right. For around fifty percent of couples who contact me, the female parter will reach out first and either sign her and her partner up, or schedule a session on her own. This is optional and does not come as a push or request from me or Closeness. 

When a woman decides to come in on her own first, it can be for many reasons: Sometimes, people just need a place to be heard, get some things off their chest, and get some things out in the open. Other times, she may not know how to or feel comfortable to bring something up with her partner that has  been bothering her.

In some cases she may have intimate or personal questions about herself or how her body works and she wants to know herself better without her partners judgment or watchful eye. I have found that all of these things are quite normal.

Finally, some women have spent years not getting what they want and are finally ready for a breakthrough. And some women want to learn how to say no, or hell yes to things they’ve been wanting to experience with their partner. 


PODCAST

Absolutely. And perhaps even more so than someone who’s in a relationship. Tuning into the Closeness podcast when you’re single allows, you to work on yourself, discover what you want, and put into practice some of the things you’ve learned with someone new.

If you plan on ever interacting with another human again in an intimate setting, this podcast is definitely for you regardless of your relationship status.  

So many of the discussions and lessons are pertinent to all of us because these are things that we never learned growing up. I take complex, super intimate matters and break them down in a way that allows you to understand it, and actually do something with it. Closeness is like receiving the best sex education.

It is very likely that your question has already been answered in one of our many episodes.

 

Try looking for a subject matter that is important to you and giving it a listen. You can also come in for a Closeness intimacy coaching session to get any of your questions answered.

 

I do take recommendations and requests, and will sometimes create an episode with enough requests from our audience. 

Everywhere.  

You can listen absolutely everywhere podcasts can be found. Tune in on any phone, laptop or tablet on your favorite streaming service such as Apple podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, YouTube Music, Stitcher, Pandora, TuneIn, iHeart, Deezer, or in your Tesla

Just click on the Podcast link at the top of the page.

You can also find direct links to other platforms by clicking them on the bottom of this page.

 

Or you can listen to the Closeness podcast by clicking on the podcast tab from the navigation menu, and clicking an episode that you like.

 

Apple podcasts, and the Closeness website also provide a full transcript if you prefer to read it

Send us an email to setup a phone conversation.  If you’re articulate, insightful  and well versed on a subject it’s likely we can collaborate and make an episode together.

This has actually been a strong request from clients over the years. Research has shown that for this particular subject more people prefer the solo style than the interview style. However, I am not at all opposed to having guests on the show.


LOGISTICS AND THINGS YOU SHOUD KNOW

As nice as that would be, I do work by appointment only. There’s a lobby downstairs where you can wait or I have a bench in front the office or you can wait in your car if you happen to arrive early. Whatever you prefer. 

Appointments can always be booked on my calendly found here

If you want to get in and need immediate help, the quickest way is to book a session online using my calendar, pay the deposit, and choose an in person or phone session. Nothing else is required other than the deposit and your booking.

Alternatively, you can simply fill out an intake form found at the top or bottom of every page, and then we can get you scheduled to come in.

You can schedule an appointment by giving me a call, texting me, or using my online calendar

I think that goes without saying, but yes, absolutely.

 

I do make episodes on the podcast based on case studies when I specifically see the same situation occurring in couples over and over and over again.  

Approximately 80% of clients tell me that they think I was speaking directly to them on the podcast, even though I had never met them before. This is because we all deal with similar relationship issues, and I know how to address them.

Your name, business, likeness, appearance, or unique personal situation will never be discussed publicly. 

This can be answered in a couple of ways: 

Unless you or your partner have a few basic questions that need to be addressed with a phone session, we will definitely want to do at least three sessions. Your first one, and two follow ups for continued coaching and guidance. After that, there is no contract or re

This can be answered in a couple of ways: 

Unless you or your partner have a few basic questions that need to be addressed with a phone session, we will definitely want to do at least three sessions. Your first one, and two follow ups for continued coaching and guidance. After that, there is no contract or requirement to continue.

 

Many people want to know how many sessions it will take to make a difference or see improvement. As shocking as it may sound, many people have been helped tremendously after only one session. Generally, if both people are willing to participate or if you’re coming to me as a single person who is willing to participate, you will see results in one to three sessions.

 

Sometimes, people who want to really build up a good repertoire, work on something new every week, be kept accountable, enjoy the fun or excitement of a session, or just require more personal attention. These couples prefer to see me long-term  every couple of weeks or maybe once a month after our initial 5 to 10 sessions.

Results very with everyone, but you will always walk away with something useful after each session.

quirement to continue.

 

Many people want to know how many sessions it will take to make a difference or see improvement. As shocking as it may sound, many people have been helped tremendously after only one session. Generally, if both people are willing to participate or if you’re coming to me as a single person who is willing to participate, you will see results in one to three sessions.

 

Sometimes, people who want to really build up a good repertoire, work on something new every week, be kept accountable, enjoy the fun or excitement of a session, or just require more personal attention. These couples prefer to see me long-term  every couple of weeks or maybe once a month after our initial 5 to 10 sessions.

Results very with everyone, but you will always walk away with something useful after each session.

Pricing is very straight forward. It is $250 per hour, Monday to Friday, between the hours of 8 AM and 5 PM. After our sessions are available after 5 PM, and on the weekends for the rate of $300 an hour. For those of you who wished to pay in bitcoin, the rate is always $300 an hour.

Home sessions are $400 per hour if you live within a 10 mile radius of the office

I leave a two hour window open for us to work as opposed to the traditional 50 minute method. This means that we can either do an hour, 90 minute or two hour session as needed. You do not need to decide this before our session begins, but I do recommend letting me know if you are constrained financially or have somewhere to be. We then finalize billing at the end of every session.

Super central to most of San Diego:

Right on the border of the 15 and 52 

Right on the edge of Tierrasanta and Kearny Mesa, under Miramar and right above Mission Valley. 

Or: 4455 Murphy Canyon Road, San Diego CA 92123 


LIFE COACHING

Absolutely. While intimacy and relationship coaching are a core part of what I offer, my work extends far beyond that. You can come in for a session and never mention sex or intimacy, if that’s not what you’re here for.

As a life coach, I help you work through a wide range of topics, including:

Personal growth and development: Motivation, mindset, and confidence-building. 

Lifestyle coaching: From fine dining and cooking to interior design and creating spaces that inspire you. I’m even happy to offer fashion advice for men and women.

Physical wellness: Sports, working out, weight training, exercise, and movement-based activities like AcroYoga and partner acrobatics.

Family and day-to-day matters: Navigating life transitions, improving family dynamics, or tackling challenges in your daily routines.

• Marital issues that have nothing todo with sex. 

•Even passions like dancing—because connection and confidence flow from how we move through the world.

A skilled life coach is an incredible asset. Pair that with my deep understanding of relationships, communication, and personal transformation, and you’ve got a powerful combo to help you reach your fullest potential—in and out of the bedroom.

Whatever you need, we’ll tailor our sessions to help you grow, thrive, and feel more alive.

Movement has always been at the heart of my life and my coaching practice. I bring decades of experience in acrobatics, dance, gymnastics, yoga, breathwork, hand-to-hand balancing, and—yes—even handstands. These skills aren’t just for show; they’re tools for building trust with a partner, and have a ton of fun.

If you’re looking to step outside the box and do something exciting, challenging, and rewarding as a couple, I also offer private acrobatic sessions for those who are physically fit and ready to play. It’s a great way to build confidence, strengthen your bond, and learn something extraordinary together.

Whether it’s refining your movements, mastering balance, or finding the joy in shared physical experiences, I’m here to guide you—both on the ground and in the air.