Start on your own · The Closeness collection
Online intimacy courses you can start tonight: how to touch, how to kiss, how to be dominant in bed, toys and play, and masculine containment, plus a written read of your relationship, quick answers from me, and experiences you won’t find anywhere else. Everything here works without booking a session.
◆ New for the holidays ◆
A Sensual Advent Calendar for Lovers
Every night from December 1 to Christmas, a door opens on an evening for the two of you: a kiss with somewhere to go, a game on your phone, an afternoon of texting, a clip of me in your ear. Built from my courses and my podcast. It starts playful and ends with a Christmas night you’ll be talking about in January.
See Unwrapped · $45Give it as a giftInstant access · Choose the day your gift arrives
Come Closer · 125 cards · $45
All Hands on Deck
A digital deck of 125 cards, from playful to forbidden. Draw one, lay out three, or play the game together.
The Dominance Masterclass · 20 lessons · $149
the way she wants it
Half the women who come to me want their partner to take the lead, and most men were never shown how. Twenty lessons on your eyes, your voice and your hands: how to build sexual tension, how to move her, and what to do with her from the first look to the last touch.
Tastefully Rated X · For adults 18 and over
In their words
Very entertaining, binge worthy, both useful for men and women to listen to. It will help you realize perspectives you might have overlooked. I share this podcast with my friends whenever I go on road trips.
Daniel A.San Francisco, CA · YelpMy husband and I have been married for a few years and had been struggling straight from the start with sex. We finally decided to see someone and found Tari.He basically gave us adult sex ed and taught us how to have better, more meaningful sex.
Joy AndersonGoogleTari has helped us in many areas. His experience is evident in what he says, and he explains everything in a very relevant way. I appreciate all the guidance he has given us so far.
Four questions · under a minute
Answer four quick questions and I'll tell you where I'd start, if you came to me for a session.
All six courses, plus the deck
Every course I’ve made, together: how to touch, how to kiss, how to lead in bed, how to play, and how to stay steady when things get hard. Plus the Come Closer deck, free. Tap a card to see what’s inside.
Tap a card.
Instant access on your phone. For adults 18 and over. All sales final.
The Flirting Masterclass · $149
Flirting, banter, dirty talk and seduction, for singles and couples. Most people were never taught to flirt, so they copy movies, fill silences with stock phrases, or freeze. This course shows you what to do with your eyes, your voice and your words, from a look across the room to the lines you say at the peak.
Eight steps of heat, with a line for each, so you know exactly how far to take it.
Whole conversations that build from a first message to a planned night.
Innocent sentences with something sexier underneath, and how to say them.
Thirty-six moments to test your instincts before you try them out loud.
Build how you like to be flirted with and seduced, and give your partner the blueprint.
Draw a dare for tonight, or plan a whole evening out, at home or by text.
Tastefully rated X. For adults 18 and over. Instant access on your phone. All sales final.
The Kissing Masterclass · 12 lessons · $79
The online kissing course for couples. Women tell me all the time that they're disappointed in how their partner kisses, and they don't know how to say it. This course is how you fix it together: playful, frank and easy to use, with something to tap, play or try on every screen.
Nine kisses on a slider, from a peck to the passion kiss, and what each one says.
Build the kiss you want, from sweet and tender to hot and primal, and get a blueprint to give your partner.
Tap any spot on the body to learn what a kiss there says, from the forehead to the inner thighs.
Train your eye for passion, then test what you know, with a score at the end.
What a kiss on the cheek tells you about whether someone wants more.
Draw a kiss to try right now, or pick a mood and get a whole evening that flows.
For adults 18 and over. Instant access on your phone. All sales final.
The Touch Masterclass · 14 lessons · $149
The touch course for couples. Most of us were never taught how to touch the person we love. Men especially pat, rub, grab, or touch her so carefully that nothing heats up. Most lessons are written about a man touching a woman, because that’s where couples need the most help, and everything works both ways.
Eight touches on a slider, from a pat to hands that know where they're going, and what each one says.
Build the touch you want, from held and grounded to hot, and give your partner the blueprint.
Flip her over and tap any spot to learn how to touch her there.
From the feather to the deep press, and the three to drop for good.
Train your eye with photos, then test what you know.
Draw a touch to try right now, or pick a mood and get a whole evening.
Tastefully rated X. For adults 18 and over. Instant access on your phone. All sales final.
The Toys, Tantra and Light Kink Masterclass · 18 lessons · $79
Toys, kink and tantra for couples. None of it is required, and all of it is meant to bring you something new tonight: what to buy, what to say, and exactly what to do. Tastefully rated X, frank and easy to use.
Each of you answers on your own, and you only see where you overlap. Nobody ever sees a no.
Tell it how she likes to be touched, and it shows you which toys to start with.
Pick toys, light kink or tantra and get a whole evening, with a breathing pacer and a gaze timer that chime when time is up.
The Stop Fighting Masterclass · 15 lessons
For couples who want more than a video: a guided journey with exercises for both of you, one lesson at a time.
Written for him and practiced with her. Learn to stay calm and warm when she’s upset, take the weight of your moods off her, hold your own arousal so you last as long as you both want, and lead her in bed with confidence.
The Closeness assessment · $29
Forty patterns that wreck relationships, each named, described and paired with a way out. I drew them from more than a decade of coaching and over two thousand intake forms, so you can stop wondering what’s wrong and know what you’re looking at.
From the interrogator to the slot machine, with the exact things people do and say, so you finally have a word for it.
What the studies show for each pattern, the words to use, and the signs it can or can’t change.
A quick check, filters and a reading at the end. Read it alone or with your partner.
Education from coaching practice, not medical, psychological or legal advice. All sales final.
Your situation, in writing · from $150
Fill out the free intake and I’ll write you a signed, three-to-four-page interpretation: the pattern I see running your intimate life, the contradiction you’ve been living with, and the first move I’d make this week.
“I appreciate and respect his dead accurate descriptions, as though he’s reading my mind.”
Becka M. · Yelp
$150 standard, $200 for delivery in 2 to 3 days. Already filled out the intake? Order The Read · Priority
Ask me directly
For one question that can’t wait for a session, or a line to me that stays open all month.
Ask me one question in writing, and I send back a private voice note with what I think is going on and one thing to try tonight.
Ask your questionThe same answer, face to face, on a private video made for you alone. You hear my tone and exactly how I’d say the hard sentence, and it plays once.
Ask on videoLearn moreA private line to me on Telegram, with real back-and-forth. I answer once a day, Monday to Friday, and my voice notes play once. Just one week? Stay Close is $75.
Start Close ContactLearn moreWant sessions with that line included? Close Quarters, just below, is my most complete program.
A private AI trained on everything I’ve made. Ask anything about desire, attraction or your relationship, any hour, and get a thoughtful answer in my voice. Text only, on your phone.
$29 a month. The first 20 members get their first three months for $57.
My closest work
For couples rebuilding a relationship, and for anyone starting over after a breakup. Up to six hours with me a month, plus a private line to me in between, so nothing waits for the next session.
Sessions and a private line, together
A private line to me, no sessions
Only at Closeness
Ways to work on your relationship that don’t happen sitting on a couch.
60 minutes outdoors · $200
One walk a day, by reservation. Choose one of six routes a few minutes from the studio: nature trails, quiet residential loops, a large park or the track. You get up to 6,000 steps of coaching in fresh air, with benches along the way for the moments that need sitting down, and most trails are quiet enough that we have them to ourselves.
“The walking sessions make the process feel active, embodied, and forward-moving — just like the growth I’ve experienced.”
Sarah S. · Teacher and principal
Trust is physical before it’s emotional. Private partner acrobatics for couples who want to fly together, through my sibling practice.
Fly nowLearn morePrivate, discreet instruction in pleasure, sensuality and intimacy for women’s gatherings and small groups: how to flirt, connect and seduce, at your pace.
Text to planComing soon
The next courses in the set: how to flirt, how to kiss, how to touch and how to lead in bed. Kissing, touch and leading in bed are already here.
The look, the tease, the almost-kiss, and everything that happens before your lips meet.
The kissing course and the dominance course are live today.
More free lessons every week on YouTube. Want a lesson on something specific? Tell me what to film next.
Free to explore
Free, in-depth guides for whenever you want to go deeper on your own. Each one is a taste of how I teach.
The two jobs of kissing, the kiss ladder and three mistakes almost everyone makes.
What she means when she asks you to take the lead, and how to do it with love.
How to stay calm and warm when your partner is upset, so desire can come back.
The too-soft and the too-hard lover, speed versus intensity, and the touch dial.
How to tell whether it can be saved, and how to leave well if it can’t.
More than a hundred terms, from limerence to the atmosphere of sexuality.
Ready to work together
Every price for private coaching is on one page. Or begin with the free intake, which I read myself before we ever meet.
Closeness serves San Diego and Southern California, including La Jolla, Del Mar, Hillcrest, North Park, Encinitas, Rancho Santa Fe, Downtown, Little Italy and North County, with private coaching by video anywhere in the world. Sex coaching in San Diego · The alternative to sex therapy · Reviving a sexless marriage
Closeness is intimacy mentoring and coaching. It isn’t therapy or legal advice.
