My name is Tari

and I am your Closeness Coach

Discover what most client's like better than sex therapy

A PROVOCATIVE THOUGHT LEADER IN THE WORLD OF INTIMACY

San Diego's #1 Rated Sex and Relationship Coach

Actionable Relationship Guidance You Can Trust

If you want your session to be fun, sexy, electric and spontaneous we'll make it so.

If you prefer gentle sensitivity and care, plus a safe space to process emotions, where you can receive helpful feedback, so too it shall be.

Office in a Forest

That's where we'll work: right there in the corner suite that extends off the edge like that. It's a spectacular and warm space nestled right into the canyon yet still is right off the freeway in central San Diego

What is Your truth?

A large part of my brand of intimacy coaching helps you do, is getting to what's true.

That is phenomenally important when it comes to sex. Do you want this? Are you capable of giving your partner what they want or need? Can you ask for or tune in to what you really want or need? For most people, they need some guidance.
sex therapy isn't needed when you can get sex coaching in this perfect setting

Comfort and Safety

It's never just about the sex or checking something off the list. I am often referred to as an intimacy translator, because I can translate what your partner is actually thinking or trying to say. I help you both feel validated and understood so you that you can move forward in your relationship.

Sometimes we simply need an outside perspective to say and present things in a different way that clicks. I specialize in breaking through stuck energy and reigniting sexual attraction. Learn to build the kind of chemistry that feels electric.

Bespoke Guidance

Sessions are tailored to fit who you are as a couple or individual. We can explore the hot and sexy stuff or process and work through the issues that just need some tender care. Or we can simply work through daily life: sleeping arrangements, better communication, cooking together, and planning unforgettable date nights. I’ll recommend activities, restaurants, worldwide travel destinations, and more.

LET'S GET CLOSER

Expert sex coaching and intimacy coaching from Tari, San Diego’s top-rated sex coach. Transform your relationship and sex life with powerful sexual guidance and relationship help. 

Your Intimacy Coach

In the intimate realm, clients often aren’t sure where to start. We can start with my name. I’m Tari (Not Terry) and I’ve been doing this for nearly a decade now. 

I love helping couples and singles in many different ways. We’re all a little different. Some of us just need someone to talk to. Check. Some of us want actionable advice that they can apply immediately. Check. Some need to heal from previous wounds and need an expert to mediate and handle the room to keep things in…check. 

Some still are looking for something fun and exciting to escalate their relationship (with their partner or with themselves) to the next level. Check, check, check! 

Sex and connection will never truly be replaced by AI, gadgets or robots. It’s a very human thing and it requires a very centered and grounded human for the job. I am that man. 

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you can't do this in your sex therapists office

The right blend of professional and classy but with some heat

However, when you're sharing the most intimate details of your life with someone, you don't only want them to hold a safe space. Once you actually feel safe, you want a solution to that one area that has you stuck! Ideally you'd want the answer to make a big impact on your relationship or your own body. If traditional sex therapy hasn't worked for you or doesn't appeal to you, you're in the right spot to try something different. You want to be in the hands of someone who can read you, who is sensitive to your boundaries but also knows how to turn up the volume or intensity the way you've been craving. You want someone respectful, competent, and also a little sexy, if we're honest. I've spent a lifetime becoming that person to do my life's work.

Come Closer

The need for sex, intimacy and Closeness is an intrinsic part of our lives whether we’re having sex with someone currently or not. 

Having lived in different countries all over the world, it quickly became evident to me, that no matter who we are and where we go in the world, we all have similar wants, needs and desires. 

The specifics and how it plays out with each individual or couple may look a little different but the path to getting there is actually quite solvable. I have done it time and time again. 

I have made it my life’s work to help you unlock the deeper parts of your sexuality that you may not even know is there. 

You may have also noticed I know a thing or two about touch, trust, keeping you safe and how to be strong… 

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sex coaching is different than sex therapy

If you don't know where to start, start with me.

Most Closeness Clients report that after 1-6 visits, their sex, intimate or love life dramatically changes for the better! That's dramatically better than spending years with a sex therapist! If you like what I've got to say and are open to my unique style of coaching, you will be shocked by what can be unlocked and accomplished within a few hours time.

The hardest part is simply making the appointment... I'll take it from there

No matter how someone explains it to you, getting help with your sex life or romantic relationship can be a little nerve-racking and intimating.

When you sit down to share the most intimate details of your life with someone, you want to know: Can I trust this person? Do they know what they’re doing and have my best interest in mind?

From me to you, please know that the answer is yes. I will take good care of you and your situation. 

I’ll help you unlock more. More pleasure. More connection with your partner. More freedom in the sex you do have. More intensity and heat.

All in a cozy office looming off a cliff and nestled deeply in the back canyon of San Diego.

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It's more just about sex and intimacy without sex therapy

If you've read through the coaching section of this website, you know there's a lot to take in. Additionally though, I am also a sexual translator who can put into words what your partner often cannot. To really get to know someone means that sometimes we need to heal old wounds, work through resentment or old traumas, re-build trust, and work on communication. If you're not in a sexual place right now and not feeling ready to explore sexually, we start at your comfort level and meet you where you are. We care for your entire relationship's needs as a whole, not just massive orgasmic pleasure! You may additionally consult with me for: hot date ideas, interior design, speaking different languages, worldwide living and travel, and even acrobatics.


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Find an approach that is better than sex therapy

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(805) 427-3162

CLOSENESS SERVICE AREA

Get in-person, real sexual guidance and relationship coaching to help you and your partner get to a more connected and erotic place. 

As an expert sex educator and intimacy coach, I service all of Southern California, San Diego and Los Angeles area including North County and North San Diego. 

While some clients fly in for appointments, people generally come from North Park, South Park, Hillcrest, La Jolla, Miramar, Del Mar, Encinitas, Rancho Santa Fe, Rancho Valencia, Downtown San Diego, Little Italy and more. 

Great relationship help is hard to find. If you live abroad or in another city we offer virtual sessions as well on Zoom or FaceTime.  I think you’ll enjoy it much more than a therapy or sex therapy session. 

  Reclaim your sexuality and schedule a sex coaching session today on Calendly or filling out an intake form.

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Why I'm Different

If you have experienced traditional forms of sex therapy, psychotherapy or marriage and family counseling in San Diego, you may have been left feeling a little frustrated in the intimacy department.   As it turns out, many qualified therapists and sex therapists aren’t fully comfortable or knowledgable when it comes to the very sexual details that sexual guidance requires. 

 I constantly receive feedback that the advice clients receive from marriage and family counselor was too general or bland. They often say they were unable get their spark back because the advice simply didn’t work in this department.

  At Closeness, we can get right to the heart of matters that  are effecting your most, no matter how personal they may feel.  My warm, confident approach is stress-free and takes place in a stunning and relaxing forest like setting.