Feeling sexually desirable isn’t only about what happens in the bedroom—it’s about how you carry yourself, communicate, and engage with the world around you. This may seem obvious but how much are you really paying attention to this day to day.
This episode offers 10 powerful strategies to help women not only feel more confident and open to intimacy but also build deeper connections with their partner. Intimacy thrives when both partners bring their best selves to the relationship, and sometimes, it’s about becoming a better, more self-aware person.
Speak Up, Be Present, and Take Action
Your partner isn’t a mind reader, and neither are the people around you. Speaking up for yourself—whether it’s about your needs, desires, or boundaries—is a game-changer. But self-awareness also matters: avoid monopolizing conversations and overprocessing out loud for hours on end. Confidence comes from being heard, not from dominating. Similarly, being present when you’re out in the world by looking up from your phone and not ignoring other genders, can invite connection with your energy and openness.
When it comes to intimacy, effort matters. While manifesting is a wonderful thing, sitting back and waiting for things to happen is an unlikely way to take control of your life. Take action, explore what your partner enjoys, and make moves of your own. Letting go of insecurities and anxieties that hold you back from enjoying the moment can be tough. For women, relaxing into intimacy (and yes, allowing your man help you orgasm powerfully) can really set the tone for your day. At the same time, don’t hold mistakes from the past over your partner’s head—growth and forgiveness are essential for intimacy to flourish.
Embrace Your Duality: Confidence and Vulnerability
Understanding the duality of your beauty is critical—yes, the world cares about how you look, but your personality and inner self and how you carry yourself matters too. Confidence is attractive, but so is humility—toning down entitlement and arrogance can create space for deeper connection.
This episode reminds us that intimacy isn’t about techniques or quick fixes—it’s about presence, effort, and self-awareness. When you communicate openly, bring confidence to the table, and take actionable steps to create connection, you’ll not only feel more sexually desirable, but your partner will feel more open and drawn to you, too.
Ready to Come Closer?
Tune in to discover how to bring these strategies to life and create deeper, more fulfilling intimacy. For more relationship insights, visit Closeness.com.
Chapters:
0:00 Intro
4:45 Speak up for yourself
12:00 Speaking unconsciously for obnoxious lengths of time
20:26 Making her come well and relax often triggers women to talk
22:24 Learning to be open and in a receptive mode to welcome intimacy
25:58 Don’t have sex with people you don’t like sleeping with
27:02 Beating up your man for mistakes from his past that he has remedied
33:05 Not letting insecurities get in the way of a good time
36:38 Toning down the arrogance, entitlement and aggressiveness
40:00 Talking about and bringing your fantasies to life
43:00 Coming to terms with the duality of your beauty
54:30 Actually do stuff to your man
59:00 Bonus: Stop grabbing our D’s like it’s a stress toy
1:00:48 Bonus: You really can do more. Your advances are almost always welcome
Intimacy and closeness are not always about the hottest sex tip or latest magazine article for instant results. Sometimes it’s about being a better person. Here are 10 strategies that are sure to not only make you a better human, but will also make your man feel more open and receptive to having sex with you.
