How to Inspire a Woman to Feel Sexy and Sexual TOWARDS you.
This episode of Closeness is a game-changer for anyone looking to create deeper sexual chemistry with their female partner. You may think your parter is sexy when you look at her or think she is sexy enough all on her own, but, can you make her feel sexy and sexual when she’s with you? This is a totally different story. There’s a world of difference between a woman feeling good about herself in general as a woman, and her feeling those hot and spicy feelings towards you. If you want to elevate your relationship both in and out of the bedroom, this episode is for you.
Men often think it’s a woman’s job to be sexual and sexy: expecting their partner to bring all the heat while changing nothing about themselves. But the truth is, inspiring sexual energy starts with you, as a man. Physical touch isn’t the only way to spark attraction—it’s about eye contact, your masculine energy and presence, confidence, and being intentional in how you show desire. When a woman feels you’re fully present and genuinely interested in her, she’s more likely to feel that electric chemistry.
Stop Waiting for Her to Do All the Work
Many men expect women to initiate intimacy or keep the spark alive, often lamenting how she “used to be” but isn’t anymore. This mindset misses the mark. The beginning phases of the relationship have, for many, been gone for quite some time. We evolve and grow over time.
Women can and should do their part to maintain healthy sex and intimacy in the relationship, but you must lead the charge. When women feel guided and safe in your presence, they’re more likely to relax into their sexuality and let go.
Practical Tips to Build Connection
Your sexual gaze—how you look at her—can ignite feelings of attraction almost instantly. And if you want her to feel sexy with you, speak up! Let her know what turns you on, and maybe get comfortable with adding some toys to your repertoire. A woman’s desire isn’t sparked by accident—it’s cultivated through your words, actions, and energy.
Ready to Come Closer?
Learn how to inspire your partner to feel sexy and sexual with you. For more insights on intimacy, passion, and connection, tune into The Closeness Podcast or visit Closeness.com.
Chapters:
0:00 Intro
4:45 It’s not only about physical touch
8:20 Men think it’s their partners job to be sexy
8:44 Men want all the sexiness from her while changing nothing about themselves
13:55 Only women can get away with existing
15:05 Women have their own work to do
17:45 Men think women should initiate out of nowhere
20:45 She used to be this way but no longe is
22:00 Wearing lingerie
25:10 Intro to being the director
32:15 Being specific
35:35 Speak up!
41:15 Women get a little woozy when they’re submissive
43:15 No half assed leading allowed
46:05 Often women don’t even know what is sexy or what is sexy to you
48:30 Toys!
55:29 Eye contact
