Feeling like roommates instead of lovers? You’re not alone. One of the biggest struggles in long-term relationships is when passion fades, intimacy stalls, and everything starts to feel stale. In this episode, we dive deep into why this happens and, more importantly, how to fix it. Whether you’re a man or a woman, you’ll learn immediate actionable strategies to reignite the spark and take the lead in moving intimacy forward—no waiting around.
Why Relationships Go Stale—and What to Do About It
Over time, couples can fall into patterns that kill sexual tension. Some couples have never had sexual tension to begin with. You sit separately on the sofa, treat each other like best friends, and stop being sexy with one another. Men often feel they need to constantly chase, while women hold back, waiting for something to happen.
But here’s the truth: keeping intimacy alive requires effort and playfulness from both partners. Women, you’re allowed to take the lead and show interest—there’s nothing wrong with initiating or being more receptive to your partner’s advances. Waiting and hoping can be a fools errand as you may already know if you’ve been doing this for years.
Build Sexual Tension and Stop Being Predictable
If you don’t know what sexual tension is you’ll learn about it in this episode. Passion thrives on tension, mystery, and spontaneity. Stop playing it too “safe” or being overly sweet—there’s nothing sexy about predictability to most women. Instead, learn how to engage in sexually suggestive behavior. Show your partner you desire them with intentional body language, dirty talk, and flirtatiousness. Men, this doesn’t mean you have to “chase” endlessly; but confidently show her that you DESIRE her, without hesitation. And ladies, don’t be afraid to give clear signals—subtle cues often fly under the radar for most men
Keeping the Train Moving Forward
Reigniting intimacy is not about making one grand move and stopping there—it’s about momentum. You have to keep the train moving forward by building anticipation, staying engaged, and consistently showing up for your partner sexually and emotionally. Remember, sex and sexuality don’t just “happen” on their own; they require you to bring energy, creativity, and presence to the relationship. This likely means you will have to do 5-25 things in succession to get her going and turn her on.
If you’re ready to stop waiting for things to change and start building the relationship you crave, this episode will show you how. From dirty talk and suggestive behavior to creating a dynamic where both partners feel desired, you’ll learn exactly how to move intimacy forward—starting tonight.
Ready to Come Closer?
Tune in now to rediscover passion and create the kind of relationship you can’t wait to come home to. For more insights and tools, visit Closeness.com.
Are you ready to come closer?
CHAPTERS:
0:00 Intro
0:57 The Waiting game
3:47 Why this happens
4:57 Women can take the lead without being outrageous
8:13 If you’re already a woman who’s comfortable initiating
10:46 Women don’t want to initiate
12:56 women are hornier but can go longer without it
14:08 On sexual tension and the importance it
15:32 What I think women want sexually
18:01 Summary of key points
21:17 Women can progress things too!
23:23 Ladies you re allowed! Give yourself permission
25:45 Something women can do to initiate or be more receptive
30:02 Men who think they always need to chase
30:55 Women and lofty expectations
31:40 Men can pick up and notice things but not ultra subtle cues
32:58 Just because you’re letting it happen does not mean you necessarily like it
36:54 Advice for men
39:44 Sex and sexuality often doesn’t happen outside of the house
42:46 Sitting separately on the sofa like roommates
48:20 You can’t be too sweet or exclusively sweet
50:28 Examples of being sexy
53:02 Don’t be predictable
54:42 How to engage in suggestive behavior
57:20 How to handle yourself with most women
58:59 How to keep the train moving forward
1:01:23 Further problem solving
1:04:36 Dirty talk
1:05:30 Men really struggle to play and not act
1:07:30 Finding the right words to use with your woman
1:09:24 Delivering the goods
1:13:14 Outro
