When you’re on a date, do you find yourself telling others not to “waste your time”? It’s a harsh, disheartening expression that implies anyone who doesn’t captivate you or fulfill your desires is disposable. Communicating this to someone who is earnestly pursuing you or offering their affection undermines the possibility of connection. Instead of fostering closeness, it devalues and hurts them.
We often claim our time has been “wasted,” yet many of us squander countless hours stringing others along—neither committing nor ending relationships. Or we lose time scrolling through Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, and Netflix.
Sometimes, we continue physical relationships with people we don’t truly care about. Other times, we hold on to toxic connections out of convenience. And often, we avoid ending a relationship, convincing ourselves we’re sparing someone’s feelings, when in truth, we’re avoiding the discomfort of taking necessary action.
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