Podcast · 2020
Should You Break Up? What to Know Before You Do (Part 1)
Nothing digs up your childhood, your insecurities and your worst fears quite like a good breakup.
Breakups, red flags and hard decisions
See it clearly, then decide
Much of my work is helping people see the truth of where they are, and then decide whether to stay and rebuild or leave well. This page gathers everything I’ve made for that moment: free tools to start with, deeper help when you want it, and my episodes and videos on breakups.
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Years of episodes and videos on breakups, in the order most people need them. Press play to listen right here; the videos play here too.
For when you love them and still wonder whether this is it.
Nothing digs up your childhood, your insecurities and your worst fears quite like a good breakup.
A short one for the woman who has been patient for a very long time.
When the wanting has gone one-sided, and how long is too long.
Four kinds of men in a sexless marriage, and which ones can change.
The good marriage with no heat, and where it usually goes.
What she is really looking for, and why she stays.
The signs that come before the conversation, for both of you.
She stops texting the way she used to, goes cold overnight and answers “nothing” when you ask what’s wrong.
A perfect evening, a goodbye kiss in the morning, and then nothing.
For him, the breakup comes out of nowhere.
Wanting space isn’t the problem.
Grieving, healing and starting again, at your own pace.
Right after a breakup, almost nothing helps.
They said “you’re my one” on Monday and stopped returning your calls by Friday.
Years in a long marriage, raised between two cultures with very different rules about desire, and now newly single.
Ghosting, mixed signals, and ending things kindly.
You’ve been talking for two weeks, you have plans on Saturday, and then nothing.
Being led on rarely looks like rejection.
We don’t choose who we fall for, and we have no control over whether they feel the same.
You’ve typed and deleted the same text nine times.
What that sentence usually means, and what to do with it.
If you’re afraid
I help people see clearly and leave well, but I’m not a crisis or trauma counselor. If you’re afraid of your partner or you’ve been hurt, reach out to people trained for this first.
In an emergency, call 911.
When you’re ready to talk
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