For a sexual woman, or a woman who enjoys regular sex, nothing feels more devastating than being deprived of intimacy, closeness, and the feeling of being desired. In long-term relationships, this scenario is more common than many realize and can lead to her disconnecting, shutting down and even feeling deeply resentmentful. In this episode, we explore what you can do if you’ve been neglecting your partner ins this department.
The Pain of Feeling Undesired
When a woman feels rejected sexually, it’s not just about the lack of physical intimacy—it’s about the emotional toll it takes on her feeling unwanted. She may begin to question her worth, her attractiveness, and even the relationship itself. A hug and a peck hello won’t be enough to salvage it. Meaningful actions and effort are needed to make her feel truly wanted but more so in the sensual and sexual sense.
The Initiation Paradox
Many men struggle to initiate intimacy, while many women hesitate to take the lead for fear of being judged or feeling rejected themselves. This “initiation paradox” creates a frustrating stalemate that slowly erodes sexual connection. A woman’s sexual expression often mirrors what her partner inspires in her; if she feels ignored or undesired, her sensuality can wither. To move things forward, it’s essential to break this cycle by understanding her emotional needs and taking intentional steps to get that chemistry back.
Questions to Ask Yourself
If intimacy has stalled in your relationship, it’s time for some tough self-reflection. Effort is sometimes too strong of word, but are you putting in the effort or energy to make her feel desired? Are you addressing your own low libido or other barriers to connection? If you’re in a sexless or low-sex relationship, ask yourself whether this is a dealbreaker—or if you’re willing to put in the work to change the dynamic. Recognize that women still crave intimacy and fantasize about passion, even if the spark has dimmed in their own relationship.
This emotionally charged episode goes deep into the challenges of intimacy deprivation and offers actionable advice for reigniting connection and restoring balance.
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CHAPTERS
0:00 Introduction
5:12 Disperate sex drives and libidos
8:35 Why can’t women just initiate themselves?
9:35 Female Nature
12:27 No man wants a starfish. No woman wants someone who doesn’t desire her
13:14 The initiation paradox
14:55 Words vs Actions
16:26 Men find it hard to initiate when
19:06 For things to work, women need to offer these secret ingredients
23:42 Mens false promises?
24:40 This is how it looks when a woman feels undesired
25:52 A hug and kiss is not the bare minimum
26:50 Damage control due to lack of promises
30:32 For men with low sex drives / libidos
38:00 If you can’t imagine the previous recommendations, ask yourself these hard questions
44:30 Is lack of sex a deal breaker for you or your partner?
47:45 Understanding mens issue with too much consent
51:41 Understanding why your wife doesn’t initiate now even though she used to
53:00 A woman is only as sexual as you will allow or inspire her to be
54:10 Even in a sexless marriage, women still fantasize and want sex and intimacy
57:20 How to get help with this right now
58:44 Outro
