15 Signs She’s Well Loved and Sexually Satisfied

0:00Today we're going to talk about what a very well- sexed and well-loved woman looks like. And to me, those two things go handinhand, sex and love. While it certainly is possible to have sex with a woman and give her a mindbending experience, it's all the nicer, sweeter, and juicier when you have a connection, you're established, you're married, you're lover, she's your girl, however you want to define it, that is when these qualities really shine. Hi, my name is Tari from Closeness, the closeness podcast and closeness.com. And today you're in for a treat. We're going to talk about 15 ways a woman shows you that she's really well-loved, well sexed, excited for you, and turned on by you. A really well- sexed woman is not something that you can just flip a switch and make happen in the beginning. Although admittedly, as you get better at it, you can flip it on pretty quick.

0:48It's something that takes presence, focus, dedication, a true appreciation of woman and of her, and a strong care for her to want to have her open in that way. Now, a couple very important words of caution before we jump in. What I'm about to reveal should never under any circumstance be used to manipulate, take advantage of, hurt, harm, or harass another woman. These are things that are beautiful to learn about how women work. They're very special. You should use it as a guide to see how you're doing. But in my breaking them down like this, it's so you can understand each piece, not take advantage of her. Number two, your mileage may vary and your partner may exhibit some or all of these and she might exhibit none of them. Now, if she's not exhibiting any of these qualities, it is possible that she's loving you and that things are still working out for you. But I would say you'll want to take a very close look at your relationship and possibly get some muchneeded help in the intimacy

1:50department. You might be great parents, you might be best friends, you might get along in every other area. But if you're not seeing these qualities, it's very likely that your woman might be doing you a favor, a courtesy, doing it out of routine or because she thinks it's her wly duty. And none of those are really great reasons to have sex. And the third thing I want to add is that these are some of the most beautiful qualities I think a man and woman can experience. It is what makes life fun. It's the juice of life. The pleasure of opening a woman. True closeness comes from being present with your partner and her feeling safe enough to open herself to you so that she will allow you to do things to her and with her that she's never done before that she doesn't do with anyone else that she may have left in her past or feels inspired to try with you now. A well- sexed woman is curious, playful, electric, fun, and very likely will start to exhibit signs

2:53that she wants to do and try more things than you've ever thought you'd be comfortable with. Things that don't seem like her, things that you thought for sure she would never do. Things that she was against earlier on or you've overheard from different conversations that she would never do, suddenly become available to you. You can't get there by force. You can't get there through coercion or asking and certainly not by demanding. Number two is all about her allowing you to do whatever you want to her. Usually spoken in those words, do whatever you want to me. Just take me faster, harder, more, more, more. And this one is usually evidenced by a gesture of surrender. Hands over her head and wide, completely open. legs completely open and soft, legs spread as wide as possible, knees back by her ears, positions that might be tricky for her to get into. She allows you to do anything to her when she's really well sexed. And to me, what I like to call

3:56that is full surrender. Now, there's an important note here. Full surrender doesn't mean she's passive and her head is turned to one side and you're just doing whatever you want to her and she's just taking it and she's not present. Full surrender actually means that she's into you and she wants to let you do whatever you want to her while she's present and partaking in it and enjoying it and savoring it. Not letting you do whatever you want to her because she just wants to get it over with. That's a very different animal. Okay. Number three, she wants all of you. She wants all of your attention. She wants all of your cock. She wants all of your energy, all of your devotion. I know the word attention is a bit of a catchphrase today. Everyone's using it. We all know women love attention, etc. But she wants all your attention, your eyes on her, your desire ravishing her. It's funny that so many women use the word narcissistic to describe men because a woman's pleasure is so narcissistic

4:59itself. It's all about her. give me all of the looks, all of the love, make me feel wanted and desired. And when you have that pushpull in your interaction where she's expecting you to want her or wants you to want her more or she's putting her foot down, why don't you desire me? Or she's frustrated by this. This isn't it. You can't spark that out of nowhere. You can't just come to the interaction like, I'm going to give you so much more love now. You're going to feel my passion and intensity. It's something that has to either be there or you have to do it from the beginning, but you can't try to prove something to her. So, when a woman is really well sexed, she wants all of you. And that means if she could, she would live inside your head. She would understand all of your thoughts and the way you think, become a little obsessive over you, think about you during not so ideal times. It becomes a bit of number four, an obsession. and what I would like to describe as a very healthy obsession when done in the right way. When a man is losing his mind over a woman and

6:02constantly pining over her and obsessing for her, this might feel good to a woman in the moment, but it does get old really fast. When a woman is constantly thinking about you, devoted to you, obsessing over you, thinking about you non-stop, this is a very positive thing. And I do not again mean it in any kind of manipulative or power play sort of way. It's not about you having more power over her, even though someone always does in the relationship. There's usually someone who adores one person and the other person feels adored. And these roles can flip-flop. And man, is it nice to do that. But I do think especially as you deal with more and more exquisite women who are used to getting a certain degree of attention, the more you praise and pursue and compliment and chase and follow, the lower their sexual attraction to you. We think as men that we're showing appreciation to them or we're just so full of love. We're just like, "My god, you're so beautiful. I'm so into you. I love you so much." This is very sweet, maybe in the beginning, but again, for

7:06long-term sexual satisfaction, it's not so ideal. Even though I do think it's paramount to tell your partner that you love her and that she's beautiful and that you care for her, sometimes sometimes a lot of guys hear this messaging and it's just all or nothing. They go off the deep end. I'm never going to compliment her. I'm never going to say something nice. or you've got simp central where they're just buying gifts and doing extravagant gestures. And neither of these two things are particularly effective. Not everything is a happy medium, but this is one of those things where a happy medium matters. All right, number five. You catch her from the corner of your eye because that's almost always how women do it. Looking over to you, admiring you, feeling a fascination for you, enchanted, entranced. You're driving and she's just looking over, just checking you out quietly, trying to be koi. I don't know why women have such a hard time just doing this overtly the way men do. It's like, I don't want to get caught. I don't want him to see I'm

8:09looking. It's like, my god, if you've been sleeping together, it's fine to look. It's not a problem to look and admire your partner. I think it's beautiful. But most men, you'll not notice it overtly. Or you might catch her looking at you and then you say something to her like, "What?" And she goes, "Nothing." Very few women will speak up about what they're actually feeling and doing. But it's a very beautiful thing. If you do catch your woman looking at you, it's very nice to just wink back, look back, check her out, too. Bite your lip cuz she turns you on so much. Number six, this is a very interesting and fascinating one. She might develop small obsessions with parts of you. How can you understand this as a man? Well, in the same way you might be obsessed with her breasts, her nipples, her butt, her thighs, her hair, there's always going to be some form of sexual ornamentation that a man just goes nuts for. Women do the same thing, but similar to how they're more subtle when they check you out and when they flirt with you, the things they like are more subtle. She might like the size and

9:14shape of your hands. She might think they're very masculine or beautiful, or you might catch her looking at them. She may love your feet. She may want to suck on or lick your fingers or your feet or other parts of your body that might blow your mind. If you have a woman that you can tease and be playful with and you can say something like, "Gosh, you're a little freak, aren't you?" That's great. But when it comes to these super intimate behaviors, you don't want to shame her. You don't want her to pull back, shut down, try to hide it even more, or decide that she's never going to do it again because you caught her. So, if you see a woman complimenting you on your shoulders, your vtaper, your arm hair, your leg hair, your toes, your fingers, odd parts of your body that aren't something typical that you would notice yourself, chances are you've been putting it down on her rather well.

10:06All right, let's talk about number seven. She wants to hear from you all the time, even after you say goodbye. You might have sexed her for 2 hours. You might have laid with her for another two hours. You might have spent the night at her house and still the moment you go, unless she's exhibiting huge amounts of self-control or playing games, she wants to text you and call you and send you more information and hear from you and constantly have you in her life. This can be a really tricky one for some guys because it could feel like needy behavior, but if you're in love with her also, it can be a really nice thing. You can set the terms of how often you respond to her or how frequently you get back. If you respond instantaneously or you let it ride for a few minutes, it's not about playing games, but you don't have to set a precedent that you're always available for this woman 24/7. In fact, leaving a few things to mystery might do you a few favors as well. Number eight is super tender and sweet and kind of coincides with this idea of love and being well sexed, and that's that she'll want to do

11:09anything for you to help you. And here again, you shouldn't sex a woman up to convince her to do things for you. Of course, that would be manipulation. And by the way, women do this all the time. They use their sexual charms, their seduction, their beauty as a way to get you to do what they want. But she will want to do things that may often surprise you. So often in the landscape of today, we hear that men should be providing for women, taking care of women, taking them places, etc., etc. It's extremely refreshing when a well-fucked woman wants to do something for you, like take you out to dinner, take you somewhere nice for the weekend, do something special for you if it's manageable or in her budget, pick up flowers for you, bring you small gifts, think of you when she's doing something else. You really want to notice that, and you don't want it to be one-sided.

11:59You don't want it to all be gifts and items and things coming your way. I think also if you notice a woman's doing that, you might be tapping into her love language because as humans we do things that we want to have done to us. So if you notice she wants to do things for you, take you places, buys you little special gifts here and there, that's a very good sign that she's extremely well sexed and very satisfied in the bedroom. Number nine kind of piggybacks on number six, which was a fascination with different body parts. Number nine is that she may want to lick them and suck on them. And I don't just mean the usual. And it's going to tend to be places that guys, you really, really need to keep clean and super hygienic. And ideally, you should never let her put something in her mouth that you would never put in your mouth if it wasn't immaculate and clean. So, the obvious ones are deep French kissing, tongue of course, but also her sucking on and licking your fingertips, your hands, your arms, your earlobes, sticking her tongue in your ear, licking

13:04your neck and chest, and bathing you with her tongue, licking your nipples, licking your vtaper in line, doing all number of interesting things that might raise an eyebrow, but are extremely hot and passionate to her in the moment. And I'll give you guys a tip. In order for a woman to truly enjoy herself sexually, a few things need to happen. If her sexual level is up here, this doesn't mean her libido or her desire. It's not like, oh, hers is a 10 and yours is a two. But if her intensity or passion is here, and you're down here like, I don't know, that makes me feel a little uncomfortable or you freeze up or you get weird, she's going to feel shame. She's going to assume and think you don't like it and never want to do it to you again. You don't want this. In fact, there might be several things that you don't know about your wife, girlfriend, or lover of 1, three, 5, 10, or 20 years that she would love to do to you or with you or with someone who would bring that side out of her. And heaven only knows why. She doesn't want to immediately

14:07disclose it to you. you have to sort of seduce it out of her or give her such great sex that she feels inspired to share it with you. Tossing your proverbial salad might be one of those things. This deep dark curiosity that existed within her, but she always thought you would think it's gross or you would think poorly of her, therefore judging her and finding her disgusting. So with women there's always these you can see these like caverns that you have to work through these mazes of understanding in order to bring it out. It feels so logical and simple. Just tell me you want to lick me here or suck me here or taste this or that. And most guys might say that's awesome. But most women in the same way their vaginas are hidden in the same way their flirting techniques and their availability gestures are rather hidden and hard to decipher.

15:02So too is almost everything else and their desire to be more sexual with you in that way. Number 10 is a nice one and it's an invisible one. She won't mind the smell or taste of your pherommones, your sweat, your scent, the way you taste everywhere. Now guys, I got to make a disclaimer here because there's a difference between being a little fresh because you just had a nice workout, you lifted some weights or you took a class and she doesn't mind burying her head under your arms and smelling your man scent. But there's another kind of bro out there who might go to the beach, sit in the sun, surf all day, come back, be sandy, smelly, rank, salty, go get some lunch, use the restroom, not shower, go to bed without showering, wake up the next day, and expect some action from his girlfriend or wife. That's disgusting. Why would you ever want your wife's mouth or vagina down there after all of that nonsense? Wash yourself, bathe yourself, use hot water and soap, get yourself clean. But for the men who

16:04are a little obsessive about cleanliness and you're a little fresh from lifting weights, so you had a little walk outside or a stroll at the farmers market or park, a lot of women won't mind tasting you at all. When a well-sexed woman is near you, she'll enjoy the taste and smell of almost all of you. All right, let's talk about number 11. A woman can come and come and come and come and come. And there are a couple exceptions here. Yes, there are women like that who can fuck almost anybody and come and come and come. They're just super sexual beings. You may have a wife or girlfriend who believes that she's one and done. And to give you a bonus piece of information here, most women who think they're one and done and want to get on with her day, I think haven't had the opportunity to rest for 30 seconds to 2 minutes before going back again. They might get super stimulated or feel satisfied or feel distracted. But because men don't want to do anything that a woman doesn't want to do, good men, and a woman says, "Okay, I'm done. Let's go." Or, "Let's

17:06go to bed or that's enough for me or can you hurry up and finish?" It's because she's mentally checked out or she's gone somewhere else. But it is possible to shift her mindset a little bit and help her experience waves of pleasure that build and build and build and they keep getting better and better instead of just like [clears throat] and then done. You'll often be able to tell by the quality of her orgasm if she's more like and then just like peaks a little bit like that versus like some deep kind of guttural groaning that can come out of her. A well- sexed woman likes to come and come and come some more and she will probably exhaust you and outperform you by a long shot. I mean the cows come home, the sheep come home, days later still coming, still coming, still coming and always ready for more. Most men do not have the stamina or the ability to outlast most women. I've only come across one of them in my practice.

18:03[laughter] This poor lady sat down. She's like, "I thought I wanted it so hard and for so long all the time." And my man said, "Well, I like to thrust." And I didn't take him seriously, but boy, this man could thrust for 2 and 1/2 to three and a half hours and just go and go and go and go. But, and there's a big butt here. It's not about how long you can last, even though lasting a long time is imperative. It's about what you do with it, how you use it. Understanding and connecting with her, being present, riding her waves of pleasure, not being so goal oriented while also keeping the goal in mind, not having to make her come while certainly enjoying when you make her come. A well-fucked woman will come and come and come until she cannot move her body anymore until she is limp on the floor, a wet mess, and still maybe one more. Still, she might go for another one. It is unbelievable how far women will take things when it comes to their own sexual pleasure. Number 12, I want to specifically devote to this type

19:07of body fluid. meaning when you come, when you ejaculate. And again, I know there are certain types of women who will never get over the taste or smell of come. They hate it. They don't want anything to do with it. No ifands or buts. That's fine. Doesn't mean she doesn't love you or like you or doesn't lust after you. But what I found, many other bodily fluids are not tasty, attractive, delicious. even bodily fluids that come from the same place. But women get fascinated and infatuated with cum or semen and want you to either fill them with it, come on them. They want to feel and see that come in them. Very few, but some women want to feel it all over their face or in their mouth or they want to have it everywhere else. And sorry, I know it's a little graphic, but this type of an obsession is often reached by exciting a woman so much and turning her on so much that her primal instincts come out. And I personally think there's nothing more attractive than to see a woman who's so hungry for that, who loves it, who demands it, who

20:09expects it. For me, it completes the cycle. If she's coming and coming and coming some more and then she not only wants you to not just on her chest or on her butt where it's controlled by your hand and really frankly not that special for a man doing that but she wants it in her. She wants to take it all in her. This kind of allencompassing obsessive component about it. That's really where the magic is. Number 13 is another one of my favorites, and that's where she will start to begin to guide the sexual interaction. And that means she might get pretty demanding. She might demand to be on top. She might flip you over onto your back. She might hold your neck or your hands down while she's riding you so passionately. She might put her hands on the back of your ass and pull you into her at the speed she wants to feel you penetrate her. Most men are familiar with the opposite. The hand comes up, it rests against your chest or your stomach, and she slows down your thrust. When a woman's really well sexed and she's enjoying herself, she's welcoming it and moving her hips and

21:12guiding it. Great sex is never about a woman laying there just taking it. It's about her participating and expanding her sensation as well. And number 14 piggybacks on that as well, and that's that your partner is much more likely to initiate. I talk about all the time how women do not like to initiate, do not want to initiate. They don't want to dip their pinky toe into the well of rejection to initiate. They're tired of it. They don't want to be asked for sex. They don't want to do the work. But when you fuck her really, really well and you take care of her sexually and you love her, you might just find that you don't have to do much of the work at all in the beginning. A woman initiating, by the way, does not mean that she wants to initiate all through the entire sexual experience while you lay there and do nothing and just have your hands behind your head like this. You still have to participate, but she might just come rub her vagina on your thigh. She might just come bump up against you or grab your cock. She might do these things that men

22:16wish their partner would do, but they become especially more evident when she's very well sexed. And finally, number 15. We alluded to it a little bit earlier, but I want to give it its own place as female generosity. You know, I mentioned earlier that so many women carry the expectation that their man does everything for him. She just exists and he takes care of the rest financially, emotionally, protection, support, and she's just there along for the ride. A well-sexed woman loves to be generous with her time, her energy, her money, her body, everything. She wants to help you where she can. She wants to be there for you, support you, or give you fun ideas. This is one of the most beautiful aspects of a woman's generosity, and not a lot of guys get to see this. Sometimes you might catch a glimmer of it before things fall off the edge, and you're arguing all the time, or maybe you're not a good match for one another. But a woman's generosity is something that's very beautiful and shouldn't be taken advantage of. Because in the same way that they want to have

23:19all of you and take all of you inside of them, they also want to give in a very unbridled sort of way. And it's your responsibility as a man, as someone who protects her and takes care of her, that you don't take advantage of that, that you rein her in if needed. But it is nice sometimes to enjoy some generosity from a woman in that respect. Let me give you a couple bonus tips and then we'll wrap it up. Because a woman will let you do whatever you want to her, guys do get very careless and disrespectful. They throw her on the bed here. Move your leg like this. Open. Let me in. They become a little jerky with it. And women will tolerate this because they're in a state of either lirance or infatuation or erotica or high sexual tension. But it is nice to remember if you are going to grab a woman. It's like can you do it with presence? Can you do it with passion, can you do it not in a disrespectful or super aggressive way where she gets bumped or jarred unless she likes that sort of thing. You have to remember that no matter how hard a

24:21woman wants it and no matter how much she likes you, she's still a woman and still very delicate. Even tough women sexually and in the bedroom like to be abused. And I know it's just like with every episode because I've met the ones who do. Yes, there's a small subset who do that. Maybe you, but most women do not want to be like roughed up. They don't want markings left on their body. They don't want to be harmed in any way. They don't want to feel like like you don't care for them. You can be assertive, confident, rough, aggressive, whatever it is that she might like, but you want to do it in a way that doesn't leave her nervous system shaking up. You want to do it while she's always inside of a container that you are providing and protecting her with. Bonus tip number two. She might start sending you nudes, selfies, photographs of herself, and you can make certain requests of certain angles. But if you're just liking it, hearting it, loling it, god forbid, or saying nice or that's hot,

25:24and some boring ass comment to her exposing her body to you. Now, imagine, and I'm not at all recommending that you send a dickpick, but imagine that you do, and you send one to your partner and she either ignores it or says, "Nice." Wouldn't you be left a little bit like, "Is that all you think?" When you send your most intimate body part to her, same thing. If she's exposing herself to you, and in today's day and age, any image can live on the internet forever, it's kind of a big deal. So, you want to make sure you appreciate it. And maybe you do send back something of yourself if she's into that sort of thing. If you're happy with your build, you can do different angles. I would actually, unless your girl requests it, stay away from dickpicks, but almost anything else is uh not out of the question. And finally, there's a softness and a beauty to a well-fucked woman. It's delicate.

26:15It's present. It's subtle. It doesn't require this constant pounding. And as a man who's always goal oriented, trying to make her come, trying to make her feel more, trying to get her someplace, you can get really, really heady with the just like the go go go, fuck fuck, keep it going, keep it going. The pushing and pushing and pushing for more or more intensity or more passion or just trying to take her there or maybe you're you feel a bit like a machine or like you're doing cardio. That's not the best way to connect with a woman. The best way is to intermingle with her, to feel her sensation and ride her waves. If she's getting soft, you can get soft, too. Whether it's here or here, if she's relaxing into you, you can also relax into her. And yes, there are times where that polarity is essential, that male female dynamic, and you want to have your strong masculine energy against her femininity. But sex is not about non-stop masculine energy just monopolizing the situation. It's about

27:19blending and merging with her, finding that container and opening your heart as well. And so with that said, I think I will bid you a do. If you want to learn more about this, you know that you can always come in for a session, fill out an intake form on closeness.com. Thanks for watching and I'll catch you in the next one.