Sometimes, the things you aren’t doing in bed can be just as damaging as the things you are. In this episode, we explore 10 key reasons why your wife or girlfriend might not feel inspired to be intimate with you—and more importantly, what you can do to turn things around. Spoiler alert: It’s not about asking for sex or sticking to the same moves you’ve been using for years.
Mindset Matters: How Do You View Sex?
One of the biggest turn-offs for women is when men treat sex like something they’re owed or something they can “get” from their partner. Similarly it’s a turnoff of men beg or ask for it. If you catch yourself using expressions like, “I haven’t gotten any in weeks,” or thinking sex is something she needs to give you, or you catch yourself asking for it, it’s time to reset your mindset. Women can sense neediness from a mile away. Talking about sex too much, asking repeatedly, or being randomly horny without putting in any effort to open her emotionally or mentally isn’t inspiring—it’s exhausting.
Stop Doing What Isn’t Working
Relationships aren’t static, and neither is intimacy. What worked in the past—whether it’s moves from 10 years ago or repeating the same patterns—might not work today. Women thrive on variety, connection, and emotional safety. If you’re doing the bare minimum or refusing to evolve, don’t be surprised if her desire fizzles out. Start paying attention to what excites her. Healthy dominance, creativity, and the confidence to lead can reignite that spark.
Inspire, Don’t Demand
Desire isn’t automatic. Women need to feel seen, appreciated, and inspired to want intimacy. If you’ve done little to build her up emotionally, mentally, or physically, why would she feel turned on? In this episode, you’ll learn to be present, take initiative, and understand her unique rhythms to make all the difference. Remember: women can be insatiable sexually when they feel safe and inspired, so have fun and explore!
This episode is packed with actionable advice to help you shift your mindset, ditch bad habits, and create an environment where intimacy flows naturally. If you’re ready to learn how to inspire your partner and become the lover she craves, this one’s for you.
Ready to Come Closer?
Tune in now for practical tips on deepening intimacy and sparking passion in your relationship. For more insights, visit Closeness.com. Let’s get closer. 🌟
CHAPTERS
0:00 Intro and your mindset about intimacy with your partner
5:04 The fatal mistake of thinking you only had to put in a little work in the beginning
7:34 You’re talking about it too much or asking her for sex
9:20 She can smell it on you and knows it’s what you want so it feels needy
10:58 You’re randomly horny and think she should therefore have sex with you
13:40 You haven’t done a whole lot to inspire her or open her
16:23 You see women as objects
19:37 You’re doing the same moves from 1-20 years ago
21:12 Asking too many questions and talking too much
22:40 Consent is imperative. But when a women feels safe it isn’t always required
24:58 What’s working today may not work tonight
26:04 Some women really do need and want healthy dominance
26:24 Women are insatiable sexually – so have fun!
29:00 Outro
