5.0 on Google & Yelp · 100+ written reviews · Completely confidential
I created Closeness because nobody teaches this depth of work with clarity and ease. Not school, not parents, not the internet — and, too often, not therapy either. Women quite simply do not want to teach their partners how to pleasure them. For over a decade I’ve worked as San Diego’s top-rated sex coach: thousands of in-office hours, the Closeness Podcast with hundreds of free episodes, and one specialty above all — taking the most delicate subjects in a relationship and making them discussable, teachable, and fixable. You’ll likely even have a lot of fun in the process. Fluent in the female perspective, blunt when it serves you, and completely without judgment.
Most people who find a sex coach arrive the same way: months of putting it off, a search at 1am, a marriage that looks fine or even perfect from the outside. The desire faded and nobody remembers deciding that. He doesn’t initiate — or initiates in a way that lands unequivocally wrong. She feels more like a roommate than a lover. You’ve may have tried couples counseling, marriage and family therapy or sex therapy and left feeling understood but unchanged.
Intimacy coaching exists for exactly this: not to talk about the problem for a year, but to rebuild desire, touch, initiation and confidence — in the room, at your pace, starting session one.
Restore the spark and the pursuit — rebuild attraction that faded into routine, and learn how desire actually works.
Tough conversations made easy, with me in the room. Resentment, rejection and the things you can’t say alone.
Your body, your orgasm, your confidence — G-spot, toys, arousal, primal passion and everything no one ever taught you.
For men: initiation, presence, assertiveness and seduction — the way she actually wants it.
When one wants more than the other is inspired to offer. We fix the dynamic, not just the number.
Learn to say no, and hell yes! Know what you want, ask for it, and walk into your next relationship already fluent in intimacy.
Not the slow, talk-only route — and there's nothing to perform or get right. You don't need to know what to expect; that's my job. Every session is educational, warm, and completely confidential. What happens here stays between us.
Explicit in subject, never crude in spirit. The work is athletic, clean, intelligent and warm — aimed at the one thing everyone wants to be good at and almost no one was ever taught.
Thirty-plus years inside the body — dance, gymnastics, yoga, acrobatics, circus, burlesque, massage, movement. I don't theorize about touch and presence. I was trained in them for a lifetime, and I teach from that.
Some clients only ever want to talk, and we can stay entirely in conversation — I'll walk you out of a tough spot or mediate the thing you both can't seem to say. Others want to be shown. You decide how far it goes, every time, and nothing moves without your yes.
Reading about chemistry and feeling it come back are not the same event. Most experts only talk about intimacy. I can demonstrate it, guide it, and build it in real time — privately, for women and couples who want the real lesson instead of another book about it.
Most people feel the shift fast, often inside one to five sessions.
You walk out clearer about what you want, more confident asking for
it, and genuinely wanted again. You will leave with a plan and that was always the point.
We felt more like roommates juggling work and parenting than partners. Traditional couples therapy made no real progress. Five stars without hesitation.
Stronger connection after just one session. We’ve been to many therapists over the years — he’s worth every penny.
Private, unhurried work on desire, touch, and connection — with your partner, or on your own. The depth a single session can’t reach. Arrange the four hours however suits you, in person or virtual.
A complete picture of your intimate life — or yours and your partner’s — before we ever sit down. I read every one personally, so our first session starts at the real work instead of the retelling. Most people learn something about themselves just by filling it out. Clients call it a free session, and they’re not wrong.
A limited number of reduced-rate 45-minute sessions at $200, reserved for those in a genuinely tight season. This work shouldn’t wait for a better year.
Walk & talk nature sessions, private cooking classes, home visits, and more — the full range of ways we can work together lives on Calendly.
Over 100 episodes on sex, desire, and love — the Closeness Podcast is the easiest way to know whether my voice is the one you want in the room.
Real intimacy coaching on private trails and elegant loops — up to 6,000 steps of whole-body work. Offered once daily, only at Closeness.
Direct, private access to me: voice notes, texts, real answers within 48 hours. Coaching at a fraction of a session’s cost.
A fully stocked gourmet kitchen and a warm host. Come alone to sharpen your skills, or make it the date itself.
How to Touch a Woman ($199) and How to Kiss ($50) — learn it tonight, apply it tonight.
Private acrobatics, AcroYoga and handstands at Elegant Acro — trust made physical, for couples and singles.
Discreet, world-class instruction in pleasure and sensuality for women’s gatherings and curious couples.
A decade of practice, distilled into three places to begin. Wherever your curiosity leads, it leads somewhere beautiful.
Yoni and lingam work, temple nights, energy orgasm, the white-to-black spectrum of play — mapped in honest language and held with real skill.
The art of being the calm she can fall against — frame, presence, the test, surrender. What women mean when they say they want him more “dominant.”
Forty-five terms across desire, tantra, power, and presence — plain, unhurried, and unafraid. Bookmark it. Send it to the one you’d explore it with.
“EVERYONE needs a relationship coach. Who else teaches you about intimacy? Reach out if you’re debating it — you won’t regret it.” — Sarah M
A sex coach and intimacy coach helps you — or you and your partner — rebuild desire, communication, touch and confidence through direct guidance and optional, fully consensual, clothed experiential exercises. Unlike traditional sex therapy, the work is practical and fast: one to four sessions is the norm for real results.
Completely. Your name, likeness and situation are never discussed, and if you come in alone, nothing is shared with your partner without your say-so.
Yes — in-person sessions in San Diego, and virtual coaching on Zoom or FaceTime for clients across Southern California and worldwide.
No. I’m an Intimacy Mentor, not a licensed therapist, psychologist or MFT — I don’t diagnose or treat mental-health conditions. What I offer is the experiential, results-focused work most licensed routes can’t: education, skill and real change in the room.
Low libido, mismatched drives, "I love you but I'm never in the mood," living like roommates, being best friends without touch the slow fade where sex became a chore or stopped entirely.
Creating hot chemistry from nothing, building desire, learning how to touch and caress, building intensity, lasting longer, staying hard, finishing — or not finishing — touch that actually lands, grounding touch, and what to do with your hands and body besides the one move you already know.
Wanting your partner to be more dominant and assertive in the way you like. Teaching him how to carry himself in a way that turns you on, body language mechanics, reading your body, building sexual tension. Learning to ask for what you want without apologizing for wanting it. Feeling desirable in your own skin again.
A decade in the room with thousands of couples and women, and a body trained for thirty years in dance, acrobatics, and movement. This isn't theory borrowed from a textbook — it's a practice refined one real session at a time, on the one subject everyone wants to master and no one was ever taught. Over 100 five-star reviews say the rest.
Initiating without it feeling like a transaction, understanding that its not about role playing, acting or not being yourself, talking about sex without it turning into a fight, mediating hard to have conversations and subjects you can't seem to touch, naming a fantasy out loud for the first time.
Rebuilding your sexuality after divorce, separation, a long dry spell, being out of the dating game or a relationship that taught you to shut it all down. Understanding your body and what it's capable of, sex toy education, climax and different orgasm styles... Single is a fine place to do this work.
Closeness Sessions and Packages
Every option is private, unhurried, and completely confidential — in San Diego or virtually anywhere.
$840
$1,400 · you save $560
Four hours of private work on desire, touch, and connection — alone or with your partner. Arranged however suits you; the depth a single session can't reach.
Reserve Your Four HoursStrategy Call
$200
One focused call
Quick, direct guidance for questions and first direction — not for life's crossroads.
Single Session
$350
1–2 hours · no commitment
Test the waters. Many people are surprised how far one honest session goes.
Five Hours
$300/hr
Save $250 vs. single sessions
Meaningful progress without the largest commitment. The strong middle path.
Eight Hours
$250/hr
Save $800 · continue at this rate after
The deep work — connection, desire, and communication rebuilt properly. Divide the hours as you wish.
Urgent Priority
$700
2 hours · seen quickly
For time-sensitive moments and out-of-town visitors. I rearrange my schedule for you.
Private Retainer
$2,500/mo
Maximum support
Up to two sessions weekly, unlimited text and phone access, priority booking.
More packages on Calendly — walk & talks, home sessions, cooking classes →
Closeness serves all of San Diego and Southern California — La Jolla, Del Mar, Hillcrest, North Park, Encinitas, Rancho Santa Fe, Downtown, Little Italy, North County and beyond — with virtual sex coaching and relationship coaching available worldwide. One message is the whole first step, and the silence is more expensive than the session will ever be.
Have you experienced traditional forms of sex therapy, or marriage and family counseling in San Diego? You may have been left feeling a little frustrated in the intimacy department. Many qualified therapists counselors and even sex therapists aren’t fully comfortable with discussing the intimate details that true sexual guidance requires.
I regularly receive feedback that the advice clients receive from their therapist was too general, bland or non-applicable. They often say they were unable get their spark back because the advice simply didn’t work in this department.
At Closeness, we can get to the heart of what’s effecting your most, no matter how personal it may feel. My warm, confident approach is stress-free and takes place in a stunning and relaxing forest like setting.
