Closeness: Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Guidance

The #1 Rated Sex Coach in San Diego

Sex Coaching

First things first: It's where you go when your intimate relationship needs support.

Your Relationship Deserves it

Sex coaching is like getting the sex education you could only dream of growing up.  In-person intimacy coaching sessions are the perfect way to restore chemistry with your partner and clean up old patterns. Learn to seduce and excite your partner, develop skills you were never taught in and out of the bedroom and make your relationship feel more alive and passionate.  Anything that has been confusing for you, can be addressed in a safe, fun and respectful space. 

Ready for Change?

As the top rated sex coach in San Diego, I specialize in re-invigorating your relationship. We can work with passion, sex, communication and connection or I can mediate difficult conversations. I'll help you get out of any rut you've been stuck in.  We do this by learning to ignite (or reignite) passion and desire. This is actually easier than you may think if both partners are willing.  I also teach men, with their female partners present, how be assertive and sexually confident partners. Ladies, if you're tired being "asked" for sex, annoyed by being touched in ways that make your skin crawl, and don't want to have pity sex, keep reading. Sex coaching is a game changer.

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Results

I facilitate the exploration of pleasure, understanding your body and figuring out what you want-something that people often don't know. In short, we can get you back on track with your emotional needs and sex life, as well as totally redefine what intimate communication and interactions look like in your relationship. If your relationship is craving Closeness, or needs a sexual tune-up, this is where you want to be.

Are you ready to come closer?

Over 300,000 people listen to the Closeness Podcast

The podcast is free and is a phenomenal accompaniment to our in person intimacy coaching sessions.  You can subscribe on your platform of choice by scrolling to the bottom of this page, or by searching for Closeness.

Over seventy powerful and intimate five-star reviews means that you too can get help and feel safe with sex coaching too.

I invite you to read through as many touching reviews as you’d like from other women who have had similar issues. Please see if what I offer resonates with you.

It takes two

Most couples who come in for sex coaching are able to find success quickly, but that does mean that your man has to be on board.

  Results come from your ability and willingness to do the exercises, take it seriously (men!), play with the fun interactions at home and come prepared each week with things you want to work on. 

What women want...

In addition to our coaching page, all questions about what I do can be found on our interactive FAQ.

All matters related to sex, understanding your body, and what turns you on or excites you can be addressed. Intimacy coaching is a powerful way to get out of your head, sort through what’s going on, and have the conversations you can’t talk about anywhere else.  

Women don’t want to ‘teach’ their partner how to do be sexual. This feels unnatural or makes them see their partner differently. In session, we figure out what excites you and then teach your partner how to give it to you. This makes all the difference in the world when it comes to turning you on. We can soften anxiety, figure out what gets you going, and work on assertiveness.

Great results again and again

If you’re in relationship, coming to session together is the most powerful way to create lasting change. Often couples want to send their other half in to be fixed. But when the female partner is present in the room, she can actually see the changes and experience what turns her on (or off) in real time.  

When a woman is present, everything changes for the better and that’s where the magic happens. 

With your consent, you can learn how to help your female partner feel desired, aroused and heard.  You’ll leave with an understanding of how and why it happened.  I will immediately and softly point out her subtle body language and cues, that let you know you’re heading in the right direction. There are very specific cues women offer that inform you what to do next!  Most men, if they are in a good space, can witness sexual desire in their partners eyes and see it in her body language. That’s the power of great sex coaching! 

It doesn't take long

Whether you’re in relationship or single, you can benefit greatly from a sex coaching session. I advise, coach and guide on all aspects of intimacy, not just sex. Learn more about about what you can expect from doing a session together. 

Often one person has a much higher sex drive than their partner. That is often the female partner. 

If a man is ‘working on it’ but only tries once or twice a week and is meek in his energy and approach, this will often appear to his female partner like he doesn’t care or isn’t trying.  Repetition is the mother of skill. By coming regularly, we’ll get you dialed in so you always know what to do next. Repetitive sessions allow us to continue to refine so you can be more effective, and seductive, at home. That doesn’t mean that you need to do 50 sessions. Most people find that I can get them back on track in 2-5 session! 

Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Coaching

Sex Therapist

A NEW SEXUAL EDUCATION

Learn to build chemistry with your partner in real time

Work through all issues that are holding you back.

You'll get immediate and actionable steps to improve on your first session
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Intimacy Coach

OFFERINGS FOR HER

OFFERINGS FOR HER

Get to know your body better and all of the ways you can receive pleasure

Explore your sensual side, get out of your head and process emotions in a safe space
COACHING
Relationship Coach

THE CLOSENESS PODCAST

THE CLOSENESS PODCAST

Long Form Episodes that tackle exactly what you're going through

Actionable content that you can put to use

Arousing Interviews and How-to instruction for the bedroom
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Closeness Clients Say:

IT's NOT AS SCARY AS YOU IMAGINE...

5/5
"I’m 21 years old. Though I’ve known for a while that I could benefit from intimacy coaching, I didn’t truly consider it until a few months ago.
My sister met Tari through an acro-yoga class she took from him and recommend him. I had no idea what to expect, reaching out to a relationship coach. Before my first meeting, I began convincing myself that this was unnecessary and I should simply cancel.

But I listened to a few episodes of the Closeness podcast and did a deep dive into his website. While he seemed very knowledgeable in his profession, I still had my doubts. I showed up to his office a bit skeptical but determined to get the most out of the experience. Tari truly delivered. I’m not good at taking about my emotions, intimacy or anything that will put me in a position of vulnerability, however Tari was incredibly patient while I gathered my nerves to open up to him. I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who can create an environment that feels as safe, comfortable, and non judgmental quite like he does. His calming presence goes past a professional skill level, it’s clear that he fully embodies his teachings and has connected to his authentic self.

We talked for a lot longer than I thought we would. He knew how to guide the conversation when I felt stuck or unsure how to proceed and many times seemed to pluck from my mind the very words I was struggling to vocalize. We went through several exercises together. By the end of the one session I felt like we’d covered multiple sessions worth of work. I left his office feeling much more at peace with myself regarding intimacy and while not everything we covered was completely new to me, it was immensely helpful going over it and having him validate certain points. I have decided that for now the one session will be enough for me but I am beyond grateful that I went to him and will definitely be reaching out and seeing him again in the future with more questions or help. To say that Tari is competent in what he does feels like an understatement, he was clearly born to do this work and it was a true pleasure meeting him."
Alana Ramos
Student
5/5
"First, please take a moment to think about how good Tari must be as a relationship coach for me to post this review publicly! Now on to the important stuff: It is difficult to put into words the positive impact a few visits with Tari has had on my relationship. Our visits with Tari were empowering, enlightening, and invigorating. It takes a special person to be able to speak to both men and women about the intimate parts of their relationship, and Tari does it masterfully. He listens and he knows how to read people. Drawing on his experience and true passion for this work, he gives the right advice and instruction that is tailored to you. And the best part is that the advice he gives is multi-dimensional. It is applicable to several situations outside of what is discussed in a session.

As the saying goes, "how you do one thing is how you do everything." The same is true when it comes to relationships and intimacy coaching. The learning and growth that can occur in one session is awesome. Guarantee you will find yourself thinking about the session for weeks after it occurs. I know this topic is still a little taboo, but that's also why I'm sharing my experience. Do yourself a favor and just try him out as your intimacy coach. Be open and vulnerable. You won't regret it."
Hali Anderson
San Diego
5/5
"After 14 years of marriage, we wanted to spice things up. We wanted to learn how to get the most out of our relationship.

Tari has a unique understanding of how to build chemistry and talk collaboratively about any sensitive or taboo topic. His personalized coaching is really sort of magical. We found it perfect for couples like us who get trapped in the day-to-day of kids, work, chores, etc.

It's easy to put this off but I recommend listenting to the Closeness podcast now. Go to see Tari sooner rather than later, so you can get your groove back. This is so much more important than we realized!"
Audra Rosenberg
San Diego
5/5
I am 37, in a 2+ year relationship with a man I love so much, but found myself on the fence for sexual reasons.

Closeness helped me in an area and season of my relationship when I didn’t know where or who else to turn to. None of the standard therapies or therapists will address this very real part of intimacy the way that Tari and his practice at Closeness can. I was so uncomfortable before my first session. The next session I brought my partner. It was hard for us both at first, but Tari is incredibly talented and intuitive. He never once allowed my big fears to become reality. I was most worried about pushing my partner away and my relationship imploding by bringing my boyfriend in for intimacy coaching sessions. But now, after working with Tari for a bit and seeing the changes at home, I can’t stress enough how worth it this work has been!

It’s a scary ledge to step onto, but if you and your partner are willing, you are in amazing hands with Tari. After one session with my partner we are already verbally and physically more connected, in and out of bed. The fact that after 2.5 years, things are improving, is a massive win that I was worried we would never achieve. In the end, I am happy to be a reference, if you would like to ask me questions.

So, don’t wait to take action! Intimacy coaching won’t make or break your relationship, it will just accelerate what was already destined to happen, which frees your energy for more of what you need and desire!
JESSICA S
San Diego
Intimacy Coach

THE OFFICE

THE OFFICE

Sometimes you may have mismatched sex drives, not enough confidence experience, lack of intensity, masculinity or assertiveness... I've created a safe space to explore all of that in a fun and relaxed atmosphere. Special lighting optional!
Coaching

LIFE COACH


LIFE COACHING

Sessions are not only about sex! Closeness offers powerful and transformational life coaching too. Whether you need rock solid advice regarding relationships, being more decisive or confident, cooking, interior design and more...Closeness has got you covered.
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RELATIONSHIP GUIDANCE


RELATIONSHIP GUIDANCE

Your custom tailored session can also be about conflict mediation, emotional intelligence, problem solving, , mentoring, building a better connection, resolving conflicts, and elevating your relationship to new heights.
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CLOSENESS SERVICE AREA

Get in-person, sexual guidance and relationship coaching to get you to a better place. 

As an expert sex educator and intimacy coach, I service all of Southern California, San Diego and Los Angeles area including North County and North San Diego. 

Some clients fly in for appointments from out of state and will stay at a local hotel or Airbnb. Locals come from North Park, South Park, Hillcrest, La Jolla and Del Mar. Others come from Miramar, Encinitas, Rancho Santa Fe, Rancho Valencia, Downtown San Diego, Little Italy etc. 

Great relationship help is hard to find. If you live abroad or in another city we offer virtual sessions as well on Zoom or FaceTime.  I think you’ll enjoy it much more than a therapy or sex therapy session. 

  Reclaim your sexuality and schedule a sex coaching session today on Calendly or filling out an intake form.

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Why I'm Different

Have experienced traditional forms of sex therapy, or marriage and family counseling in San Diego? You may have been left feeling a little frustrated in the intimacy department.   Many qualified therapists and sex therapists aren’t fully comfortable when it comes to the intimate details that sexual guidance requires. 

 I regularly receive feedback that the advice clients receive from their therapist was too general, bland or non-applicable. They often say they were unable get their spark back because the advice simply didn’t work in this department.

  At Closeness, we can get to the heart of what’s effecting your most, no matter how personal it may feel.  My warm, confident approach is stress-free and takes place in a stunning and relaxing forest like setting.