An intimate makeover for couples and singles
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The #1 Rated Sex Coach in San Diego

Welcome to Closeness. Where shall we begin?

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Closeness is a new take on sexual education. An eye opening experience to more deeply understand what you’re partner wants, what you need and how to get it… quickly. 

  • For Couples and Singles
  • Learn to initiate assertively
  • Create or bring back chemistry
  • Traditional and non traditional welcome
  • REAL Time feedback
  • Navigating a breakup or getting out
  • read and understand her body Language
  • Get out of your head

Alone or together?

As you prefer

In Person?

Yes! Virtual available upon request

LGBTQ+ FRIENDLY?

Yes

Closeness: Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Guidance

“I didn’t know what I wanted or needed when I sought help from Tari at Closeness, only that things needed to change.

 
Having faced sexual assault, the end of my marriage, and the overwhelming landscape of online dating, I arrived carrying trauma and uncertainty, with little confidence in my sexuality, my desires, or my power. Tari is a gentle, empathetic and giving soul. He listens attentively, observes carefully, and guides each session with a quiet confidence.
 
His compassionate approach made me feel safe enough to be open and vulnerable. Together, we worked through difficult past traumas and explored how they shaped my sexual experiences and relationships. Most importantly, he helped me move forward with greater awareness, healing and strength. I connected with Tari from our first session; his genuine nature and playful sense of humor created space for rich and varied conversations.
 
I felt stronger, reconnected with my desires and prepared for the next chapter to begin.
 
Even while single, the benefits of my sessions with Tari were incredibly valuable. He is knowledgeable but not arrogant, always engaging with respect and authenticity.
 
Tari very quickly picked up on my body language and helped me recognize how I present myself–both in daily life and in sexual contexts. With his guidance, I gained a deeper understanding of the nuances of sexual intimacy and expressing my own desires with a partner.
 
If you’re unsure where to turn for guidance on sex, intimacy, or relationships– or simply wan to deepen your connection with a partner– Tari at Closeness is the guy to see!”
 
– A Review from Mimi B. in San Diego 

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Sex Coaching

Welcome to Closeness. As uncomfortable as it may feel to look for help in this department, you're not alone. Whether you're getting general help with your relationship, or something specific to sex coaching, Intimacy guidance is the answer when any aspect of your relationship needs help.

It's not just about sex.

I help you get to the truth about what is going on in your unique situation, then I teach you and show you what you can do about it. Real, in the moment, actionable results. It lets you know where you stand in your relationship and what needs to happen for it to get better. Do I feel safe and can I open up to this person? Can he learn to be more assertive and confident? Are we compatible anymore?

Together, we identify all the pain points and closely work through them while offering tasteful (or blunt if you prefer) feedback and answers. In many cases, this allows us to solve the issue quickly- often in the course of a few hours.

Your Relationship Deserves it

Sex coaching is getting the sex education you wish you had growing up. In-person intimacy coaching sessions are the perfect way to restore chemistry with your partner and clean up bad habits.

In session, you can learn how to entice and excite your partner or slow things down.
Seduction and enticement are not dark and scary words! They are in fact, almost always what she is looking for.

I will help you remember or develop the skills you were never taught to make your relationship feel more alive and passionate both in and out of the bedroom.

Anything that is confusing to you can be addressed in a safe, fun and even playful manner.

Your New Sexual Education

As the top rated sex coach in San Diego, I specialize in re-invigorating your relationship.
If you're tired being "asked" for sex, are annoyed by being touched in ways that make your skin crawl, keep reading.

Sex coaching is a game changer. I facilitate all difficult conversations including ones you've never had with anyone else.

If your relationship is craving Closeness, or needs a sexual tune-up, this is where you want to be.

Closeness

Are you a therapist?

Results that don't take years

Delivered as quickly as you can handle it

I am not a therapist but I do get results and I do it quickly often rivaling the amount of time it takes with traditional methods.

 

I do not diagnose illness, treat mental health conditions, specialize in resolving past traumas and I generally do not resolve strong emotional and behavioral issues. I stay in my lane. 

I am not a Clinical Counselor (LPCC), clinical social worker (LCSW), therapist, marriage and family therapist (MFT), or sex therapist. I avoid language that suggests that I am involved in any of these professions. 

 

For your particular situation, sex coaching may or may not be a substitute for therapy and properly addressing your mental health. Please find an appropriate health care provider or work with them in conjunction with me. 

Many couples enjoy working with me alongside their own personal or couple’s therapist as well. 

In my client’s own words: I am the man people call when traditional methods of therapy, marriage counseling and sex therapy have failed or not worked for their unique situation. 

Over 300,000 people listen to the Closeness Podcast

The Closeness podcast can very well be found everywhere you like to tune in. It’s free and is a phenomenal accompaniment to our in-person intimacy coaching sessions. You can also watch videos on YouTube, or click the podcast section of this website.

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Countless meaningful and intimate five-star reviews means that I can probably help you make the shift you’re looking for. Sex Coaching is not something to be afraid of or intimidated by; it’s just another tool in your toolbox to make life better. 

Click below to read touching reviews from other women who have had similar issues in their relationship and have found answers.

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What do women want?

Intimacy coaching is a powerful way to get out of your head and have the conversations you can’t talk about anywhere else.  

Women don’t want to ‘teach’ their partner how to do be sexual. This feels unnatural or makes them see and experience  their partner in a less than positive light. In session, we figure out what excites you and then teach your partner how to give that to you while also keeping his needs in mind.  We can soften anxiety, figure out what gets you going, and work on his assertiveness.

FAQ >

Great results again and again

If you’re in relationship, coming to session together is the most powerful way to create lasting change. Often couples want to send their other half in to be fixed. 

But when a woman is present in the room, she can visually see the changes and experience what turns her on (or off) in real time.  This is where the magic happens. 

With consent, you can help your female partner feel desired, aroused and heard.  You’ll leave with an understanding of how and why it happened.  There are very specific cues women offer that let you know what to do next. I gently point out and help you engage with her subtle body language, to get you moving in the right direction. 

This will tune you in to your partner’s sexual desire because you’ll see it in her eyes and body language.  That’s the power of great sex coaching! 

HOW IT WORKS >

It doesn't take long

Often one person has a much higher sex drive than their partner. That is usually the female partner. 

If a man is ‘working on it’ by only trying once or twice a week, but is weak in his energy and approach, this will appear to his female partner like he doesn’t care or isn’t trying. By coming to sessions regularly, we’ll get everyone  dialed in, so you always know what to do next. 

Repetitive sessions allow us to continue to refine so you can be more effective, and seductive, at home- for life. Most people find that I can get them back on track in 3-6 sessions! 

CONTACT >

Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Coaching

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Closeness Clients Say:

IT's NOT SCARY...

Rated 5 out of 5
I’m 21 years old.
Although I’ve known for a while that I could benefit from intimacy coaching, I didn’t truly consider it until a few months ago. My sister met Tari through an acro-yoga class she took with him and recommended him to me. I had no idea what to expect when reaching out to a relationship coach. Before my first meeting, I began to convince myself that this was unnecessary and that I should just cancel. However, I listened to a few episodes of the Closeness podcast and did a deep dive into his website. While he seemed highly knowledgeable in his profession, I still had my doubts. I showed up to his office a bit skeptical but determined to make the most out of the experience. Tari truly delivered. I’m not good at discussing my emotions, intimacy, or anything that puts me in a position of vulnerability; however, Tari was incredibly patient while I gathered my nerves to open up to him. I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who can create an environment that feels as safe, comfortable, and non-judgmental as he does. His calming presence goes beyond professional skill—it’s clear that he fully embodies his teachings and has connected with his authentic self. We talked for much longer than I had anticipated.

He knew how to guide the conversation when I felt stuck or unsure of how to proceed, and many times he seemed to pull from my mind the very words I was struggling to vocalize.

We went through several exercises together. By the end of that one session, I felt as if we’d covered multiple sessions' worth of work.

I left his office feeling much more at peace with myself regarding intimacy.

While not everything we discussed was completely new to me, it was immensely helpful to review it and have him validate certain points. I have decided that for now, one session will be enough for me, but I am extremely grateful that I went to him and will definitely reach out to him again in the future with more questions or for further help. To say that Tari is competent in what he does feels like an understatement; he was clearly born to do this work, and it was a true pleasure meeting him.
Alana Ramos
Student
Rated 5 out of 5
"First, please take a moment to think about how good Tari must be as a relationship coach for me to post this review publicly! Now on to the important stuff: It is difficult to put into words the positive impact a few visits with Tari has had on my relationship. Our visits with Tari were empowering, enlightening, and invigorating. It takes a special person to be able to speak to both men and women about the intimate parts of their relationship, and Tari does it masterfully. He listens and he knows how to read people. Drawing on his experience and true passion for this work, he gives the right advice and instruction that is tailored to you. And the best part is that the advice he gives is multi-dimensional. It is applicable to several situations outside of what is discussed in a session.

As the saying goes, "how you do one thing is how you do everything." The same is true when it comes to relationships and intimacy coaching. The learning and growth that can occur in one session is awesome. Guarantee you will find yourself thinking about the session for weeks after it occurs. I know this topic is still a little taboo, but that's also why I'm sharing my experience. Do yourself a favor and just try him out as your intimacy coach. Be open and vulnerable. You won't regret it."
Hali Anderson
San Diego
Rated 5 out of 5
"After 14 years of marriage, we wanted to spice things up. We wanted to learn how to get the most out of our relationship.


Tari has a unique understanding of how to build chemistry and talk collaboratively about any sensitive or taboo topic. His personalized coaching is really sort of magical. We found it perfect for couples like us who get trapped in the day-to-day of kids, work, chores, etc.

It's easy to put this off but I recommend listenting to the Closeness podcast now. Go to see Tari sooner rather than later, so you can get your groove back. This is so much more important than we realized!"
Audra Rosenberg
San Diego
Rated 5 out of 5
I am 37, in a 2+ year relationship with a man I love so much, but found myself on the fence for sexual reasons.


Closeness helped me in an area and season of my relationship when I didn’t know where or who else to turn to. None of the standard therapies or therapists will address this very real part of intimacy the way that Tari and his practice at Closeness can. I was so uncomfortable before my first session. The next session I brought my partner. It was hard for us both at first, but Tari is incredibly talented and intuitive. He never once allowed my big fears to become reality. I was most worried about pushing my partner away and my relationship imploding by bringing my boyfriend in for intimacy coaching sessions. But now, after working with Tari for a bit and seeing the changes at home, I can’t stress enough how worth it this work has been!

It’s a scary ledge to step onto, but if you and your partner are willing, you are in amazing hands with Tari.
After one session with my partner we are already verbally and physically more connected, in and out of bed. The fact that after 2.5 years, things are improving, is a massive win that I was worried we would never achieve. In the end, I am happy to be a reference, if you would like to ask me questions.

So, don’t wait to take action! Intimacy coaching won’t make or break your relationship, it will just accelerate what was already destined to happen, which frees your energy for more of what you need and desire!
JESSICA S
San Diego

CLOSENESS SERVICE AREA

Get in-person, sexual guidance and relationship coaching to get you to a better place. 

As an expert sex educator and intimacy coach, I service all of Southern California, San Diego and Los Angeles area including North County and North San Diego. 

Some clients fly in for appointments from out of state and will stay at a local hotel or Airbnb. Locals come from North Park, South Park, Hillcrest, La Jolla and Del Mar. Others come from Miramar, Encinitas, Rancho Santa Fe, Rancho Valencia, Downtown San Diego, Little Italy etc. 

Great relationship help is hard to find. If you live abroad or in another city we offer virtual sessions as well on Zoom or FaceTime.  I think you’ll enjoy it much more than a therapy or sex therapy session. 

  Reclaim your sexuality and schedule a sex coaching session today on Calendly or filling out an intake form.

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Why I'm Different

Have you experienced traditional forms of sex therapy, or marriage and family counseling in San Diego? You may have been left feeling a little frustrated in the intimacy department.   Many qualified therapists counselors and even sex therapists aren’t fully comfortable with discussing the intimate details that true sexual guidance requires. 

 I regularly receive feedback that the advice clients receive from their therapist was too general, bland or non-applicable. They often say they were unable get their spark back because the advice simply didn’t work in this department.

  At Closeness, we can get to the heart of what’s effecting your most, no matter how personal it may feel.  My warm, confident approach is stress-free and takes place in a stunning and relaxing forest like setting.