The #1 Rated Sex Coach and Relationship Coach
in Southern California on Google

Learn the intimacy skills no one ever taught you — often in just a few sessions.

 

 In person in San Diego, or virtually around the world for couples and women.

 

This is your new sexual education. 

 

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Closeness teaches what no one ever taught you:

Pleasure, sensuality and intimacy are skills

Somatically Embodied

Thirty-plus years inside the body — dance, gymnastics, yoga, acrobatics, circus, burlesque, massage, movement. I don't theorize about touch and presence. I was trained in them for a lifetime, and I teach from that.

Not Therapy
Not Performance

Not the slow, talk-only route — and there's nothing to perform or get right. You don't need to know what to expect; that's my job. Every session is educational, warm, and completely confidential. What happens here stays between us.

Live Safe Interactions

Explicit in subject, never crude in spirit. The work is athletic, clean, intelligent and warm — aimed at the one thing everyone wants to be good at and almost no one was ever taught.

You Set The Pace

Some clients only ever want to talk, and we can stay entirely in conversation — I'll walk you out of a tough spot or mediate the thing you two can't seem to say. Others want to be shown. You decide how far it goes, every time, and nothing moves without your yes.

Shown Not Told

Reading about chemistry and feeling it come back are not the same event. Most experts only talk about intimacy. I can demonstrate it, guide it, and build it in real time — privately, for women and couples who want the real lesson instead of another book about it.

You Leave Different

Most people feel the shift fast, often inside one to five sessions. You walk out clearer about what you want, more confident asking for it, and genuinely wanted again. That was always the point.

Desire that faded can be rebuilt.

The spark you think is gone is usually just dormant — waiting for someone to show you how to call it back.

I’m Tari. For a decade I’ve helped women and couples across San Diego reignite intimacy that had gone quiet, often in one to five sessions. Coaching and education, not therapy — direct, warm, and completely confidential.

Ready when you are.

 

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CLIENT TESTIMONIALS


Tari truly changed our marriage. After four years of marriage and two kids in two years, my husband and I found ourselves stuck in a rut. We loved each other deeply, but we felt more like roommates juggling work and parenting than partners. We had tried traditional couples therapy together and individually, but we just weren’t making real progress.

A friend suggested we try alternative therapy, which I had honestly never considered before. After some research, we found Tari — and being able to schedule Sunday morning sessions with our busy lives made the decision even easier.

From the moment we walked into his office, we realized this experience would be very different from traditional therapy in the best possible way. The environment is private, welcoming, and thoughtfully designed to create comfort and openness. Tari helped us communicate in a way that felt safe, non-judgmental, and focused on genuine connection — no blame, no scorekeeping, just understanding.

On a personal level, Tari helped me reconnect with my sensual side after years of pregnancy and breastfeeding, a part of myself I had truly lost. He helped both of us rediscover the closeness and intimacy we had before kids, and our relationship is stronger because of it.

We are so grateful and highly recommend Tari to any couple looking to reconnect. Five stars without hesitation.

Rated 5 out of 5

Julia Cohen

San Diego

 

“I didn’t know what I wanted or needed when I sought help from Tari at Closeness, only that things needed to change…

 

Having faced sexual assault, the end of my marriage, and the overwhelming landscape of online dating, I arrived carrying trauma and uncertainty, with little confidence in my sexuality, my desires, or my power. Tari is a gentle, empathetic and giving soul. He listens attentively, observes carefully, and guides each session with a quiet confidence.

His compassionate approach made me feel safe enough to be open and vulnerable. Together, we worked through difficult past traumas and explored how they shaped my sexual experiences and relationships. Most importantly, he helped me move forward with greater awareness, healing and strength. I connected with Tari from our first session; his genuine nature and playful sense of humor created space for rich and varied conversations.

I felt stronger, reconnected with my desires and prepared for the next chapter to begin.

Even while single, the benefits of my sessions with Tari were incredibly valuable. He is knowledgeable but not arrogant, always engaging with respect and authenticity.

Tari very quickly picked up on my body language and helped me recognize how I present myself–both in daily life and in sexual contexts. With his guidance, I gained a deeper understanding of the nuances of sexual intimacy and expressing my own desires with a partner.

If you’re unsure where to turn for guidance on sex, intimacy, or relationships — or simply want to deepen your connection with your partner — Tari at Closeness is the guy you must see!”

Rated 5 out of 5

MIMI B

San Diego

 

I’m 21 years old and though I’ve known for a while that I could benefit from intimacy coaching, I didn’t truly start considering it until a few months ago.

My sister met Tari through an acro-yoga class she took from him and recommend I reach out to him. I had no idea what to expect going into this and before my first meeting with him I began convincing myself that this was unnecessary and I should simply cancel, I listened to a few episodes of his podcasts and did a deep dive into his website and while he seemed very knowledgeable in his profession, I still had my doubts.

I showed up to his office a bit skeptical but determined to get the most out of the experience, and Tari truly delivered. I’m not good at taking about my emotions, intimacy or anything that will put me in a position of vulnerability, however Tari was incredibly patient while I gathered my nerves to open up to him. I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who can create an environment that feels safe, comfortable, and non judgmental quite like he does; his calming presence goes past a professional skill, it’s clear that he fully embodies his teachings and has connected to his authentic self.

We talked for a lot longer than I thought we would, he knew how to guide the conversation when I felt stuck or unsure how to proceed and many times seemed to pluck from my mind the very words I was struggling to vocalize. We went through some exercises and by the end of the one session I felt like we’d covered multiple sessions worth of work.

I left his office feeling much more at peace with myself regarding intimacy and while not everything we covered was completely new to me, it was immensely helpful going over it and having him validate certain points. I have decided that for now the one session will be enough for me but I am beyond grateful that I went to him and will definitely be reaching out and seeing him again in the future with more questions or help. To say that Tari is competent in what he does feels like an understatement, he was clearly born to do this work and it was a true pleasure meeting him.

Rated 5 out of 5

SOFIA SANCHEZ

San Diego

The #1 Rated Sex Coach and Relationship Mentor in Southern California

It's Not That You Don't Love Each Other

One or both of you just stopped reaching for each other. Somewhere along the way the touching became logistical — a hand on the back that means “move,” not “come here.” Sometimes there’s no hand at all.  You ask for sex, instead of starting it, but you use the same voice to ask about dinner. You already know the answer before you finish the sentence.

You tell yourself it’s a phase. You’ve been telling yourself that for a while now.

This didn’t break. It eroded, quietly, because no one ever taught either of you how to keep desire alive once the newness wore off — and you were both too embarrassed to admit you didn’t know.

That’s not a character flaw. It’s a gap in your education. And gaps in your education can be closed.

You can learn to build desire instead of waiting for it to show up. You can learn to initiate in a way that doesn’t feel like a negotiation. You can feel wanted again.

Come closer and let’s get to work.

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There's a particular shame around intimacy that keeps people silent, and the silence is expensive. It rarely shows up on a bill. It shows up later: a marriage that slowly turned roommate, a partner you still want and no longer know how to reach.

FILL OUT AN INTAKE

Almost no one was taught how to sustain desire, build real tension, or initiate without it feeling like a negotiation. These were always learnable skills — we just built a culture too embarrassed to teach them.

WHAT WE WORK ON

Below you'll find a handful of subjects we can tackle together. I handle almost all things related to sex, closeness, love, intimacy and dating, so if it's not there we can still work on it. Tell me what's going on, and I'll tell you honestly whether I can help. Text or call by clicking here. Tell Me What's Going On →

Desire that went quiet

Low libido, mismatched drives, “I love you but I’m never in the mood,” living like roommates, being best friends without touch the slow fade where sex became a chore or stopped entirely.

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The Mechanics Nobody Taught you

Creating hot chemistry from nothing, building desire, learning how to touch and caress, building intensity, lasting longer, staying hard, finishing — or not finishing — touch that actually lands, grounding touch, and what to do with your hands and body besides the one move you already know.

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Sexual Confidence and Presence

Wanting your partner to be more dominant and assertive in the way you like. Teaching him how to carry himself in a way that turns you on, body language mechanics, reading your body, building sexual tension.

 Learning to ask for what you want without apologizing for wanting it. Feeling desirable in your own skin again.

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Excellence

A decade in the room with thousands of couples and women, and a body trained for thirty years in dance, acrobatics, and movement. This isn’t theory borrowed from a textbook — it’s a practice refined one real session at a time, on the one subject everyone wants to master and no one was ever taught. Over 100 five-star reviews say the rest.

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Hard to Have Conversations

Initiating without it feeling like a transaction, understanding that its not about role playing, acting or not being yourself, talking about sex without it turning into a fight, mediating hard to have conversations and subjects you can’t seem to touch, naming a fantasy out loud for the first time.

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Single or Starting Over

Rebuilding your sexuality after divorce, separation, a long dry spell, being out of the dating game or a relationship that taught you to shut it all down. Understanding your body and what it’s capable of, sex toy education, climax and different orgasm styles… Single is a fine place to do this work.

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INVESTMENT AND PRICING

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I reserve a limited number of reduced-rate 45-minute sessions slots at $200 for clients experiencing financial constraints.

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More Packages On Calendly

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Tune In!

Over 100 unique episodes about sex, intimacy, relationships and love on the Closeness Podcast.

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For couples, women, and individuals who want real closeness — not another book, not years of talk. As your Intimacy Mentor, I help you restore chemistry, build desire and confidence, and feel genuinely wanted again, through warm, direct, completely confidential coaching in San Diego or virtually anywhere. Most clients feel the shift fast.

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A complete profile of yours or yours and your partner's sexual strategy. Most people learn something about themselves when they fill it out that surprises them. I read each one. thoroughly before our session.

CLOSENESS SERVICE AREA

Get in-person, sexual guidance and relationship coaching to get you to a better place. 

As an expert sex educator and intimacy coach, I service all of Southern California, San Diego and Los Angeles area including North County and North San Diego. 

Some clients fly in for appointments from out of state and will stay at a local hotel or Airbnb. Locals come from North Park, South Park, Hillcrest, La Jolla and Del Mar. Others come from Miramar, Encinitas, Rancho Santa Fe, Rancho Valencia, Downtown San Diego, Little Italy etc. 

Great relationship help is hard to find. If you live abroad or in another city we offer virtual sessions as well on Zoom or FaceTime.  I think you’ll enjoy it much more than a therapy or sex therapy session. 

  Reclaim your sexuality and schedule a sex coaching session today on Calendly or filling out an intake form.

PODCAST

Why I'm Different

Have you experienced traditional forms of sex therapy, or marriage and family counseling in San Diego? You may have been left feeling a little frustrated in the intimacy department.   Many qualified therapists counselors and even sex therapists aren’t fully comfortable with discussing the intimate details that true sexual guidance requires. 

 I regularly receive feedback that the advice clients receive from their therapist was too general, bland or non-applicable. They often say they were unable get their spark back because the advice simply didn’t work in this department.

  At Closeness, we can get to the heart of what’s effecting your most, no matter how personal it may feel.  My warm, confident approach is stress-free and takes place in a stunning and relaxing forest like setting.