Question
A conversation for two
A deck of questions about how you met, and what makes each of you feel wanted, with a list you each mark and keep.
A Sensual Advent Calendar for Lovers
An interactive advent calendar for couples, built from my courses, my podcast and years of teaching couples in private sessions. Every night from December 1 to Christmas, a door opens on an evening for the two of you: a kiss with somewhere to go, a game you play on your phone, an afternoon of texting, touch guided by a chime, a clip of me in your ear. It starts playful, turns sensual, gets hot, and ends with a Christmas night you’ll be talking about in January.
Instant access. Your own private login. Works any month of the year.
Timers that chime so the phone stays face down, a gold coin to flip, a recorder for your voice, games you play together.
Every door is a night lifted from one of my private courses: kissing, touch, flirting, dominance, toys and tantra.
Nine clips of me, picked from years of the Closeness podcast, playing right inside the doors when you need them.
Why a calendar
Most couples save their effort for an anniversary or a weekend away, and then wonder why the other three hundred and sixty days feel so ordinary. You build intimacy in small evenings, and December is the month you’re already home, already lighting candles and already looking for a reason to stay in.
So every night this December you open a door together. Some start at lunchtime with a text that turns into an afternoon of back-and-forth. Some take an hour, like learning exactly how your partner likes to be touched without either of you saying a word. By Christmas you’ve had twenty-five evenings of paying attention to each other, and that changes how a couple feels in bed and out of it.
What’s behind the doors
Question
A deck of questions about how you met, and what makes each of you feel wanted, with a list you each mark and keep.
Kiss
The kissing ladder, kisses everywhere but the mouth, a tasting menu for the lips and making out in waves, each with a guide that chimes.
Touch
Everywhere but there, the outside-in half hour, the Melt and a blindfold, with exactly what your hands do and for how long.
Text
A few doors start at lunchtime: a thread that builds back and forth all afternoon, with a message for every round, then a night that delivers on it.
Listen
Warm, playful clips from my podcast, played in the moment: under the blankets on Christmas Eve, or while your partner lies blindfolded.
Game
Truth or dare with a real coin, Yes Maybe No, Lighter or Firmer, a voice recorder for finding your voice, and your five favorites.
The heat climbs
Nobody gets rushed. The first week warms you up, and the heat rises a little every few days.
Opal
Doors 1 to 6: flirty, funny and revealing.
Rose
Doors 7 to 13: slow, tender and close.
Magma
Doors 14 to 19: explicit, and somebody takes the lead.
Obsidian
Doors 20 to 24: power, fantasy and trust.
The greatest hits
Every door is interactive, and every one comes from something I teach. Here are some of the favorites.
Door 2 · Opal
A mini lesson on six kisses, from the peck to the passion kiss: what each one does and exactly how to do it. Then a guide chimes you up the ladder, one rung at a time.
Door 6 · Opal
An engraved gold and rose-gold coin decides whose turn it is. Sweet and Spicy decks of truths and dares.
Hard time concentrating today.
Oh? What's distracting you?
The way you looked this morning.
Now I can't concentrate either.
Good. Eight o'clock.
Door 15 · Magma
Five rounds of back-and-forth, from the lunchtime tease to the moment you name the time.
Door 16 · Magma
Where sensual touch melts into sexual. A guide moves you along the dial, stage by stage.
Door 17 · Magma
Hear me say the lines, then record yourselves, play it back, and send your best take as a voice note.
Door 20 · Obsidian
What yellow and red actually ask of you, then the Yellow Game, so stopping feels safe and even sexy.
Door 24 · Obsidian
You wrap yourselves for each other, ribbon and tag included, and take all night opening the gift.
Door 25 · Christmas
A nine-part night: the gifts you wrapped open on screen, you choose the heat, and the month ends in gold.
◆ Everything you get ◆
Twenty-five evenings, built from everything I teach, and yours to keep.
◆ Unwrapped ◆
A sensual advent calendar for lovers
◆ The gift ◆
Buying it for your partner, your wife, your husband or a friend who could use a little more romance this year? Tick “This is a gift” at checkout, add their name, their email and a note, and choose the day it arrives.
A gift for you
To Alex,
Twenty-five nights of us. Starting tonight. Love, J.
Your private link is inside.◆ Questions ◆
Tastefully rated R. The first week is playful and flirty, the middle is sensual, and the last week gets hot, with a safe word on the night before the deep end. You can skip or soften any door, and a no always ends it.
No. Every door you’ve passed stays open, so you can catch up at your own pace, do two in one evening, or start from door 1 and go a night at a time.
Yes. Outside December, the first door opens the night you start and a new one opens every night after that. Plenty of couples save it for a slow January, a birthday month or Valentine’s.
Most doors fill an evening: thirty minutes to an hour, often more. A few start at lunchtime with a text. Christmas night is the whole night.
No. A blindfold helps on door 23, and a silk scarf, a tie or a pillowcase folded a few times works perfectly. A ribbon is lovely on Christmas Eve, and massage oil is welcome but optional.
Yes. Most doors are written for the two of you, with a few notes for him or for her where it helps. Everything works both ways.
Yes. Tick “This is a gift” at checkout, add their name, their email and a note, and choose the day it arrives. They get a beautiful email from me with a private link, and you get a confirmation.
Completely. It lives behind your own login on closeness.com, nothing is posted anywhere, and the charge shows as CLOSENESS.
The deck is 125 questions and dares you draw from whenever you like. Unwrapped is a guided month: each door tells you what to do that evening, and many of them come with a game, a timer or a clip of me. A few deck cards appear behind the doors. They go beautifully together, and the deck is $35 as an add-on at checkout.
◆ December 1 to Christmas ◆
Light a candle, open a door, and see who you are to each other by Christmas.
Want to go deeper after Christmas? Every door comes from one of my courses for couples.