Fighting and Manipulation Tactics Solved (Part 2)
In this follow-up episode, we delve deeper into the roots of arguments and manipulative behaviors in relationships—and, more importantly, how to resolve them. From communication pitfalls to accountability issues, this episode breaks down actionable strategies to stop the cycle of fighting to foster healthier, more respectful interactions.
Why Certain Phrases and Tactics Backfire
If you’ve ever said, “I don’t want to argue,” you likely found it only escalated the situation. This is because you’re starting an argument by saying this. It’s is a prime example of a well-meaning phrase that often backfires, leading to more tension. Similarly, some people intentionally start an argument only to shut it down immediately after, just to have the last word or feel like they’ve “won.” These tactics create frustration and prevent resolution. Direct communication is often the antidote—being clear and straightforward eliminates passive-aggressive behavior and keeps the conversation on track.
Accountability and Respect Are Key
Many fights stem from a lack of accountability. Flaky excuses like “My friend needs me” or being perpetually late due to procrastination. (“But I was really tired”) show a disregard for your partner’s time and priorities. Relationships thrive on mutual respect, and showing up—both physically and emotionally—goes a long way. Expecting reliability, such as being on time or following through on commitments, is not unreasonable; it’s essential for building trust.
Communication Tools That Work
Cold, vague texts or procrastinating by avoiding important conversations only fuel misunderstandings. Instead, prioritize clarity and respect in your relationship, especially when dealing with men. Simple tools like time management strategies can also help eliminate stressors that lead to arguments—such as tardiness or neglecting shared responsibilities.
When You Can’t Fix It Alone
Not every argument can be solved in the moment or by one person. Sometimes, external help—whether it’s a mediator, coach, or neutral space to process—is necessary. Closeness also specializes in these services!
Recognizing when you need support is a sign of strength, not weakness. And if a situation feels truly unresolvable, knowing when to let go of the fight can save both partners from unnecessary exhaustion.
This episode is a practical guide to cutting through the noise of arguments, holding yourself accountable, and creating a relationship built on mutual respect and effective communication.
Are you ready to Come Closer?
Tune in to learn how to spot manipulative tactics, resolve fights, and build a healthier connection with your partner. For more insights on love, intimacy, and communication, visit Closeness.com.
CHAPTERS:
0:00 Introduction and recap
2:32 I don’t want to argue
7:06 Starting and argument and then shutting it down
10:20 Reading way too deep into things
14:30 Why direct communication is best
16:40 Deprioritizing your partner without warning and punishing them
19:06 Excuses, excuses
23:05 The danger of NOT having expectations
28:50 Total lack of accountability
34:50 But my friend needs me
36:35 Poor texting examples
39:30 Dangers of procrastination
42:50 Solving age old issues of taking out the trash
45:15 Sometimes you just can’t fix it yourself
46:10 Being disrespectful of your partners time
49:58 Excessive tardiness
51:34 A useful time management tool
52:48 A second tool for time
53:46 Blaming it on my friend and self-victimization
57:04 Overnighters
1:01:46 But… I am really tired
1:06:32 Outro
